Okay, so this girl and I had a casual fling for a brief time but then she had a pregnancy scare and said she wanted to stop having sex until she was on birth control. So she got it but sex suddenly wasn't on the table anymore. She was/is involved with some other guy which, while I was hurt by it, was perfectly fair for her to do since we weren't dating. So we ended up just being friends and have remained so for about four months. We hang out 3-4x a week for hours at a time, which seems like a lot considering she has a "boyfriend" of sorts, right? We're very close, have a lot in common... to sum it up briefly, we have the type of relationship where we essentially finish each others sentences.
There's a variety of signs that she is still into me... I think. If I tell her I'm going to the gym tonight she'll say I should wait till morning so we can workout together. She'll tell me she's wearing a skirt before she comes over (hint hint??). Just a couple weeks ago we were drinking and passed out together on her bed, just holding hands. She even wanted to discuss ways to hypothetically tell her parents that she wants to move with me to Los Angeles!
So what does she tell me yesterday? She said this other guy and her have been unofficial up to this point but as of now they are "officially official". And then she proceeded to tell me she's still on the fence about moving to L.A. with me annnnnnd plans to dye her hair red like Mary Jane. (She's plenty aware that I'm a Spider-Man fanatic.)
Is she ****ing with me or really just being indecisive? I'd like to believe she has a very weak relationship with the other guy and assumes it will wind up being a short term thing, ending well before the time that we'd be potentially moving away together. Or she's afraid I'll stop seeing her because of her supposed relationship so she's purposefully dangling the idea of moving just to keep my hopes alive.
I just don't get it. Ladies, I hope you have some insights/advice because I am at a loss. And yes, I've communicated to her that I desire to be more than friends so she's fully aware of where I stand. I told her that even though she says we're just "good friends", I'm convinced that she's interested in me romantically. Her reply to that assumption? "Of course I am!"
We had a previous physical relationship... check. She and I both have emotional feelings for each other... check.
So... why aren't we dating again?