it's been a month and i just cant take it anymore!!!

[AJMorales]

Im a guy and So for the past 2 years i have been best friends with the girl of my dreams thats right the girl of my dreams and she was and still is everything to me. She is amazing compared to other girls she thinks and always says she's fat when she's no she's just right for anyone, she's beautiful has an absolute amazing to die for personality although she's really insecure of herself, and she is really talented she can draw/paint sing and act really good. So anyways about 2 months ago things started getting a little different between us she's always known that Ive loved her and it hasnt gotten in the way of our friend ship even though i've asked her out 2 times in the past. Well 2 months ago she started to flirt with me for real like none of that kind of stuff we've had before. I thought it was great then her best friend(girl) came to me and started to tell me that she was gonna help me out with her. It made me one of the Happiest guys on the planet! So that whole month was wonderful like a dream come true we didnt go out but we were actually going somewhere you know. Then came a day where she and the rest of her drama crew were having a gala and there i told her everything good i felt about her everything i thought of her and all the things she shouldnt be insecure about. She was on the brink of tears by the time of was done and gave me a really big and long hug. So the weekend passes and i didnt see her. Monday was my birthday and she came to school late, she never comes to school late actually really early, just so she could give me my present which was this snuggie that she woke up for early in the morning to go get*long story*. The way she looked at me that day i knew i just knew that she liked me, but then lunch came. It was lunch and we were together like usual but then this guy came over and started to flirt with her and she just went along with it and it really got me pissed, she looked at me while she was doing that. I kept those thoughts to myself then the next day she jsut started hugging with the guy laughing and flirting right in front of my like crazy, i asked her bestfriend for help and she told me not to worry about it. I left school without saying bye to her. That night she called me and asked me what was wrong and i told her and she told me that it wasnt a problem and then i asked her if she really wanted to make us work out and if she cared about my feelings. Then we both got in this huge fight which ended up in us both saying things that we shouldnt have said. She then sent me a really long message telling me that i should just get over her cuz she was taking to long to come around and that im a really awesome guy that has qualities any girl would die for then i just started breaking down and i told her that i loved her. she then said that no u dont it's just a mental and physical attraction and then i told her no it isnt it's the real deal i know it is. She told me then i still wanna be friends and good night my dad is starting to yell at me cuz it's late. The next day came and i said hi to her and she just ignored me and walked in the other direction. It's been like that for a month now and i just don't know what to do anymore should i say something or should i wait till she say's something which idk if thats gonna happen, It's just breaking me apart emotionally and i just cant take it anymore!!

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Stop saying hi. Move on.

[Bonfire]

It's over man, it's over... pick up your pride and move on. Even if you two are back as friends, your only chance with her is when she has been used and abused by her boyfriends or ex-husband, and she's at that vulnerable stage when she feels old and no one wants her, she'll probably give you a shot. Why not find a girl that will see you the same way you see her?

[AJMorales]

I've tried that man this whole last month i have been trying that but in my eyes and mind there is just no other girl that comes as close as perfect for me than her.

[Bonfire]

I've tried that man this whole last month i have been trying that but in my eyes and mind there is just no other girl that comes as close as perfect for me than her.

Guess what? Many guys on this forum can tell you they went through the exact same thoughts as what you just said right there. From the first love I have ever experience, to the current one, each person that i ever felt in love with could not be compared. I thought each girl was perfect when I was in love, then the next love change my mind finally and open my eyes. Love is blind, and when you are in it, you can't see any other beauty besides her. But one day, you'll wake up when you encounter the new love. The previous love will appear not so perfect after all. Until then, yea you will have it bad, you will think the world of her, you will continue to torment yourself with thoughts of her, you will continue to think no one can understand how you are feeling (somehow your love for her is unique than everyone's else). Yea... you'll go through hell but fortunately you'll crawl yourself back when you are sick of feeling pity for yourself. How long that will take? That's up to you. One month is nothing.. some people will go like this for years if they are slow to move on...

[AJMorales]

wow....... like wow i never thought of it that way that's.......... thanks man that really helped!

[MrE]

Sorry bro, you're on the 'Friend List'. Once you've made a permanent spot on this list, it will just never work. You have to get it out of your head that you'll be with her. Occasionally women will feel so sorry for one on the friend list that they'll actually date them for a very short time, but that only destroys you more, because the only thing worse than not achieving your dream, is having it and losing it.

[Rabbitt]

I disagree with the ''Friend Zone'' Yes you are in it, but NO it's not impossible to get out of it i'm the living proof of that.

Heres what you do :

Stop contact.


Thats all you need, if you want her to miss you then you stop giving her attention. she will not be expecting that, and it'll dig feelings up if she has any for you if she doesnt have em well you'll know that in 2 weeks

Gameplan:

No texting to her
No calling to her


If she calls you, let her call once dont pick up, if she calls again keep it short just say excited : Heyy how you doing? Oh good? yeah me too, hey listen i gotta go i'll call you back, obviously you're not gonna call back ofcourse...
if she says Hi in school just say hi back and go back to your business ,

make her feel that you still are best friends and nothing happened but keep contact short and she'll think like : hey wtf is going on? thats your window you want that. you wanna squeeze that text out of her saying: hey you wanna hangout this evening or?


The single things thats better than pretending to be really busy is to actually be really busy, just focus on school and work and maybe even go work out , try boxing and running its helps man trust me.