Not sure what to think ....

[Lil7]

Hi, I feel rather silly posting for advice at 32 years of age .... thought I had the love thing sorted out by now. Hoping someone neutral can offer a view though.
I had a friendship with a work colleague 4 years ago, over about 18 months, that ended up being flirty and moved towards more than friendship, but then with him ignoring me after the first night we spent together. Still had to work together for a few months more, was horrible.
He got in contact again about 3 months ago, apologised for the way he had been back then, said he had matured and would like to take me out for a drink when he was training with his new work near my town. (He's now in the Forces). So 3 months of texting and chatting followed, got on really well like we always did before.
He came down last weekend, stayed with me, (not sure I need to mention this but no nothing happened other than kissing and cuddling!), was very positive and vocal about apologising for his behaviour before and that he wanted to spend more time with me over the 5 weeks he is stationed nearby.
I waited for him to text after the weekend, which he did a couple days later - really nice text. But since then nothing! I sent a text on Thursday asking what his plans were for the weekend, and then this morning saying to let me know if he was around this weekend and what I was up to. (yeah I know i did the 2 texts in a row thing).
I have a horrible feeling he has done a runner, like he did before. And feel so foolish for having let myself be open to it again. Really upset actually.
I don't know why he would be so keen last weekend and send me the first text after the weekend, if he has done the runner now.
Any thoughts on whats going through his head would be appreciated, as I don't think I will get any answers from him, I didn't the last time!
Thanks xx

[Bonfire]

Hi, I feel rather silly posting for advice at 32 years of age .... thought I had the love thing sorted out by now. Hoping someone neutral can offer a view though.
I had a friendship with a work colleague 4 years ago, over about 18 months, that ended up being flirty and moved towards more than friendship, but then with him ignoring me after the first night we spent together.

And feel so foolish for having let myself be open to it again. Really upset actually.
I don't know why he would be so keen last weekend and send me the first text after the weekend, if he has done the runner now.
Any thoughts on whats going through his head would be appreciated, as I don't think I will get any answers from him, I didn't the last time!
Thanks xx

There is that saying, "If you fool me once, shame on you, if you fool me twice, shame on me." Yea, it looks like it's happening again, or least it will happen again since he didn't get sex from you yet, he might come back for it. If a guy ignores you after sex like he did in the past. That's a BIG slap in the face. I mean you should have cuss him out and never speak to him again. He's not a good person no matter how charming he appears to be. He's a player. If he txt you again, I hope you do the right thing and tell him to get lost. Yea I know it sucks when we let our emotions get the best of us, we are human so don't be too hard on yourself and don't let this bad experience prevent you from opening up to a great guy.

[Rabbitt]

It could also simply be the love game.


Guys love the chase, but girls like to be chased after but at the same time if a guy gives everything to fast he's clingy.


So bottomline, he may be playing the love game in order to let you develop feelings again




It's called : Balance of power