So here's the deal....not to sound arrogant or anything but I know I'm very lucky in the looks department. I often get told I'm beautiful and guys hit on me a lot (I try my best not to encourage it. The attention can be flattering but it can also get annoying). My bf says that although my face is overall very attractive, it's my eyes and lips that are attention-grabbing. (Note to guys: please don't stare at a girl's lips when you're talking to her....it's very uncomfortable)! Anyways, my bf is kinda the opposite. Now before you guys get upset, let me clarify that I'm crazy about him. I love his confidence and strong personality. He's independent, hard-working, ambitious and smart. Even though he's an investment banker who works crazy hours, he's still very caring and attentive and is always there when I need him. Plus, I think he's hot (especially when he doesn't shave!!)
About a month ago, we were hanging out and the movie She's Out of My League came up. I commented on how I really liked the movie and how it was the guy's sweet personality that made the girl fall for him. My bf laughed and said "I must have a very sweet personality for you to end up with me." I didn't think much of it at the time but I dwelled on it later on and I started thinking of all the times my friends or certain family members have commented on my bf's looks. I started to dig around a bit and talked to my mom, sister and some friends. Maybe it's because I'm blinded by love but apparently, they're all surprised that we're together!! One of my friends commented that she always thinks of Beauty and the Beast when we're together (which I thought was very mean) and my sister said she'd easily rate me a 9 but my bf would barely get a 3 or 4. I know he's kinda short (he's 5'8" which seems perfect to me since I'm only 5'), starting to get bald and dark while I'm quite fair (we're South Asians and they tend to give skin color a lot of importance) but to me, he's perfect. Like I said, I'm definitely attracted to him.
Do you think this bothers him? My mom said situations like this can go in 2 directions: either the guy is super happy that he's dating 'up' and will do his best to keep the girl happy or he'll realize he's dating 'up' and soon become insecure and jealous. It's been about 4 months and so far things have been great. I know he's a bit possessive but it's a sweet level of possessiveness; he's not psychotic or anything. It's just little things e.g. if I'm talking to a guy at a party, he'll came up to me and take my hand or put his arm around me but I think that's just his way of showing that guy that I'm taken, right? I really don't care what anyone says but I'm kinda worried now. I'm sure it hurts his feelings when people say stuff like that and perhaps he's been more aware of it than I've been. Is there something I should do to assure him that I'm totally into him or should I leave things as they are? Also, what runs through your mind when you see an attractive girl with a not so attractive guy?