Online dating...what is happening?

[kevinstacy]

Don't worry too much about this. On line dating is nothing like it used to be, it has actually become an incredibly good way to meet people. I have had several friends that have gotten divorced or something and went what I would define as a little crazy with online dating but they are safe and seem to be fine. I have a different perception about it than I used to.

[surfhb]

Internet dating is pretty normal these days, but this relationship sounds like it's mostly online instead of face-to-face. When are people going to get smart about this? Every dating site allows users to restrict the search to a limited radius, no more than 25 miles away. Deliberately choosing someone who lives far away is a stupid way to use an online dating site.

Excuse my ignorance but theres people who have relationships on-line only? :0(

[Sonrisa]

Internet dating is pretty normal these days, but this relationship sounds like it's mostly online instead of face-to-face. When are people going to get smart about this? Every dating site allows users to restrict the search to a limited radius, no more than 25 miles away. Deliberately choosing someone who lives far away is a stupid way to use an online dating site.

ha, or a safe one at that.

[Sonrisa]

Excuse my ignorance but theres people who have relationships on-line only? :0(

first of all THERE IS no people

and then THERE ARE freaks

[emily25]

Thanks for the replies...

They have met each other twice so not JUST online. I do agree tho. After 2 dates, shes fallen for him completely..... NOT NORMAL!!!!

[DarkHelmet82]

i met both of my recent exes online.. and well they were both crazy so Im not sure how to answer this lol.. But then again I like crazy women.. (probably the sex)

[maxmax]

Thanks for the replies...

They have met each other twice so not JUST online. I do agree tho. After 2 dates, shes fallen for him completely..... NOT NORMAL!!!!

Don't forget, there are people who fall for each other without ever having met.

It's not my place to say whether it's normal or not, but I think it's highly unlikely I would find myself in such a situation ...

[Yet another guy]

They have been talking to each other every day for about 6 months and finally met like 2 months ago. They have met up two times in total. Seems like the guy is nice to her. Treating her to dinners etc. I am just worried shes being used and her safety.

She is unsure if she likes him but i think she enjoys the attention from him.

Seems to me like she is using him. She has been leading him on for 6 months and isn't even sure if she likes him?

i guess i just found it a bit "odd" how she can be so attached to someone who she met online and only met twice!!

I'm like that too, I always have a huge crush on any girl that shows me even a tiny bit of attention. I don't see what difference it makes where she met him though.

2. MOST people online are 180% different then they how they are IRL

I've always tried to avoid exaggerration or misleading during my short experience in online dating. Maybe my sincerity is why (almost) nobody answers my messages....

[kageri]

I've met several sane boyfriends and my husband online. I met my psychotic, abusive boyfriend not online. So long as you take the time to talk and get to know people and weed out the trash, then meet in a public location there is no more risk using the internet than meeting strangers in other places. Plenty of people who can maintain healthy relationships use internet dating these days. Some just don't have the opportunity to meet people. I lived 30 mins from anything, had no coworkers, and my friends all work multiple jobs so they are too busy to really do anything. My husband moved here from a state away and was working as a software engineer with all his friends living 3hrs away. Neither of us go to church or anything and aren't good at small talk with strangers so there is no way to meet anyone except the internet. We are even using the internet to find friends after getting married. A lot of people have similar problems because they have limited contact with people they don't know. I'd much rather meet people online than in a bar or club since I hate drinking, don't dance, and hate the noise from such places. Meeting someone who likes to drink and hang out at clubs would never work out for more than a few months.

For many people it's normal to become infatuated with someone after barely spending any time with them. My sister does it about every 6months when she gets a new boyfriend because she lost interest in her last one. I've also had lots of boyfriends that were overly clingy and seemed to have marriage on their brains after 2 dates. The question is not if it's normal to get attached that quickly but if it's normal for that person.

[emily25]

true but before shes not so keen on even meeting him and now she just wont stop talking about him. I think its more than just sex!! he used to text her every day but now its the other way round!!!