what do men think about this?

[Wakeup]

your opinion is meaningful, but not relevant to this topic, which was how MEN feel about sleeping together too soon.

Actually it was about how men feel about sleeping together too soon and then stopping the sleeping together so that the op can "get to know him."

I don't think anyone has any issue with waiting to sleep together until the couple have gotten to know one another and at least find out if they like one another enough to not regret their decision (or feel they've been used ... haha)

[imagineallthe]

I'm not sure, but I also think that guys underestimate how much women think about sex. But I can't speak for the entire female gender. I, however, think about it almost all the time. It's not even thinking - it's just automatic reactions to seeing ANY guy. Sometimes it's almost subconsciously, like if I see a weird old man, I won't imagine sex with him - but my mind will go through, automatically, the process where it decides NOT to want sex with him.

If I see a kind of "my type" of man, this happens again. He's a possible option for sex.

If I see a VERY "my type" of man, I'd want him in bed without doubt. All the waiting, and emotions, and falling in loves comes with people you get to know, it doesn't come with strangers on a bus or the cashier. Which is why the sex you have with a random hottie won't even compare to the mind blowing sex (spiritually and physically) with someone you're in love with. And this type of amazing sex is hard to imagine for anyone who haven't truly been in love .

So I don't think anyone should be offended if their respective other enjoys the look of attractive men/women It's just like looking at a flower field; it's there, it's obvious and it's beautiful.

[imagineallthe]

Oops this was a reply to someone who posted on this thread ! Now it seems like I just made it up out of no where

[smackie9]

I'm not sure, but I also think that guys underestimate how much women think about sex. But I can't speak for the entire female gender. I, however, think about it almost all the time. It's not even thinking - it's just automatic reactions to seeing ANY guy. Sometimes it's almost subconsciously, like if I see a weird old man, I won't imagine sex with him - but my mind will go through, automatically, the process where it decides NOT to want sex with him.

If I see a kind of "my type" of man, this happens again. He's a possible option for sex.

If I see a VERY "my type" of man, I'd want him in bed without doubt. All the waiting, and emotions, and falling in loves comes with people you get to know, it doesn't come with strangers on a bus or the cashier. Which is why the sex you have with a random hottie won't even compare to the mind blowing sex (spiritually and physically) with someone you're in love with. And this type of amazing sex is hard to imagine for anyone who haven't truly been in love .

So I don't think anyone should be offended if their respective other enjoys the look of attractive men/women It's just like looking at a flower field; it's there, it's obvious and it's beautiful.

That maybe you but I have had mind blowing animal sex with someone I hardly know.....so don't kid yourself it can happen. Sometimes I think it's better without all the emotional bs.

[abn25]

So many minds, so little brains...

[ConniptionFit]

If you slept together too soon, but have decided to pull away and stop how do you view this? Does it seem like a game if you are honest with them about it?

I would think she is a head case who has no idea of her values or how to act on them and make adult decisions.

[ConniptionFit]

Since everyone assumes this is me we're talking about I guess Ill set it straight. To be honest, we actually both know we moved too fast to begin with. As long if you are honest with the person as I clearly stated in my title, there should be no confusion and it actually prevents further problems down the road ( peoples feelings getting hurt or misinterpreted etc). As far as being "mixed up", its the exact opposite when you recognize a potential problem and know what you want with your partner, guy or girl early on.

Then why are you here asking the question to a bunch of people you don't know if you already figured it out in your honest discussion with him?

[ConniptionFit]

Changing your mind about sex does not indicate that a person is unbalanced or has no self-control. As I pointed out earlier, if a girl changed her mind about something else (something other than sex), it would not be an issue for the guy. So a girl changing her mind about sex shouldn't be an issue for the guy either. People change their minds all the time. It's part of being human; it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. The negative response in this thread indicates that some people believe it should not be acceptable for women to say no to sex. But it IS acceptable, so deal with it. Or find a woman who can be coerced into sex; I'm sure there are plenty of those.

A mature woman with self-control figures out her values and makes consistent decisions based on those values. A woman who has sex with a guy and then figures out is was too early is far from mature and balanced.

[ConniptionFit]

Wow, the men fell into this one and really just made themselves look stereotypically sex crazed and just plain stupid

Kind of stupid of you to come to the "Ask A Male" forum, ask for guys opinions and then tell them those opinions are wrong.

The one looking plain stupid would not be the "men", but the one asking for opinions and then arguing with those opinions.

[VincenzoG91]

So many minds, so little brains...

Maybe it's time for you to stop dating men for a while and experiment with women.

[Wakeup]

So many minds, so little brains...

Shouldn't you be out getting to know this guy so you can get back to getting bizzzy?

[surfhb]

Shouldn't you be out getting to know this guy so you can get back to getting bizzzy?

LOL!! Yeah.....I forgot to ask the OP....How was it the first time? Will the guy need some teaching or is he "the Man" already?

[IndiReloaded]

Whatever goes on in a persons head, like screwin your sister or whomever, is nobody's business.

LOL, porn isn't cheating. Btw, there is a great quote for this^

We aren't responsible for our thoughts, only acts of will.

Discuss.

[McNoodle]

So many minds, so little brains...

Because you have been adding such a high degree of intelligence to this thread yourself...

I wont reiterate the countless solid points that have already been covered thoroughly by others in regard to your original post. I will say one thing however, you have demonstrated an obvious lack of maturity by asking for OPINIONS from a group and then resorting to naught but childish insults and prodding directed at the majority when you find no one holds the opinion you wish to hear. But you know what? Judging from your inability/unwillingness to listen to and try to understand the opinions of others (hell, even shelly made an attempt at debate despite a lack of sound logic) I would agree with you, you are not mature enough to be having sex yet nor any other forms of intimacy and certainly not a serious relationship. Relationships require the ability to at least try and understand the feelings of others, if you simply call someone a moron because they don't have the same opinion as you then they wont be in your life for long.

Good day to you.