Hi, I have a scenario and will like your input.
My girlfriend broke up with me several years ago but I haven't gotten over her. She believe's I have but absence makes the heart grow fonder. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me apart from being friends. She keeps in contact a couple times for the year and says that we are still friends but she's too busy otherwise. I feel really depressed when am making the effort to keep things alive and the other person is like taking you for granted.
Couple months ago she told me there was someone else in her life but they are no longer together. Last month she said she's going through some challenging times with her boyfriend. Am not sure if there is one or none.
I kept telling her that it was really hurting how she's been treating me - making me feel as if am non-existent and then whenever we spoke, it's like she doesn't want to be there. I always ask if this is how she treats her new friends and this really ticks her off. She recently met someone at a fast food outlet and during the second conversation, contact numbers were exchanged and she call every few days to ensure he's good.
In April, I invited her to our company's celebration which she accepted. Big mistake carrying her .... she was upset for several reasons and did a pretty good job and making me feel badly myself. The person from the fast food outlet had already know of what she was wearing, who she was going with and where she was going. I was like.... what, all that in just 2 conversations/ meeting??????
Last Saturday, she called and apologised for how she's been treating me. She spoke with a friend who advised her. Her reason is that she remembers the bad in our relationship and that's affecting her, when it comes to do anything with me.
When I asked, she said we may become close friends as we were previously to our relationship but she can't say when.
Is this a tatic to make me feel better by saying it but really has no intentions of becoming as close friends as before? Was it for her to feel more comfortable with herself? Was it an informal goodbye?