Hello,
I was dumped by my boyfriend of 1.5 years at the end of our first year at uni. We had been friends/ unofficially dating for a year or so before getting together, and then got into the same uni to do the same course, so we thought our dreams had come true. neither of us had been in a relationship before therefore we were each others first for everything.
we are very similar in personality, like the same sort of things, shy and reserved. But then after a few months at uni he began to see me less and less, hung out with his friends more often than me, so I backed off to give him space, as I feared I might be smothering him, therefore settled for seeing him in the evening and leaving him alone to hang out with friends during the day in lectures etc... He stopped contacting me to meet, and when I contacted him to meet 8/10 he refuse and say he was doing something with his new friends instead, then never re-arrange. I was heartbroken because i loved him so very much, i felt rejected and hurt, so I became a little resentful... on nights out he'd ignore me and get very very drunk and only talk to his friends, we never seemed to have anything to say to one another anymore, the only time he'd come to me was when he was really drunk and needed help/ wanted sex... I don't drink thus I was always there able to help him out when he was vomiting all over me and couldnt stand up - embarrassing at formal events I must say... he could never understand why I got so mad at him for that...
he wouldn't take time to talk to me so a couple of times when I felt upset I'd send him an email expressing myself, he never mentioned these nor replied - wrong way to do things I know, but at the time it was all I could do...
I got so worked up one night that I finally exploded, said something a little mean in-front of one of his female friends when he ignored me asking him to do something and when she told him to do it he jumped immediately (that he follows her around like a puppy - ugh I cant believe I said that...) and told him him I felt lik his f**k buddy rather than a gf, how pushed away I felt etc.. and if he wanted to end it for him to just tell me - he refused and said he wanted to be with me... he made an effort for a few days then suddenly all contact fell away and he broke up with me 2 weeks later saying that he just didn't love me anymore, that I say things that make him cringe (?!), I didnt fit in enough with his new (loud/laddish/ boisterous) friends (whom he tries so hard to fit in with pretending to be someone he's not...) - I asked him how I could have been a better gf as I felt I was good and attentive - he told me that I could stop wearing one of my jumpers I used to wear when I was cold because apparently it looked hideous on me with skinny jeans... I wanted to die when he said that - hes hardly into fashion himself... he then made excuses saying he didn't have time for a gf now, that he felt it would be more of a commitment if we carried on over a year, that he wanted to try new things.... yada yada... but wanted to be friends
we came back to uni after the holidays and all he's done is run away and avoid me, I asked to talk - he refused, deleted most of our fb pics, but not all of them, ignores me in uni, pretends not to see me, gets all nervy and awkward if I try and say hi, acts ignorant/ bored and exits asap.. yet he turns up where I am, watches me like a hawk, hates the fact I have new love interest (will not talk to the guy who was supposedly his friend) and I see him with my fb chat tab open on his laptop even though we havent talked on there for months.
he's not had much luck with the ladies since we broke up as far as I know, he had a one drunken night stand (totally out of character) but with a girl that looked and sounded like me (accent wise) - there are even rumors nothing happened, in that he took her home and they chickened out...
is this GIG or him wanting to play the field - do you reckon he'd ever regret things because we were so so so close to start with, absolutely in tune with one another in everway, totally in love, I really dont understand what happened, one day everything was fine... the next.... sigh
sorry for long post!
thanks in advance x