I love her a lot and she loves me too but she cant express it

[pleasehelp80]

hi everyone
forgive me if my grammar is wrong.
I am a guy 22 years old..my gf is 21 years old. I have been in this relationship with her for over 2 and half years yrs. n i love her alot and i kno she loves me alot too. but the problem is that i dont see that kind of response from her ( i feel she does not express her love for me )..


whenever we are together i express my love for her..i do things for her that i never felt i could do for anyone..i tell her all sorts of romantic things like shes beautiful and the best etc..i always cuddle her..play with her..try romancing her..take care of her..take care of anything she does..anything she needs from smallest to the biggest i try giving her watever i can n its just coz i lov her that all of this cums out of love and not just coz i want her to be happy with me nor coz i want to see her smile bt coz i just love her.. so naturally all these feelings come out..all the affection..care..love ..comes out ,out of my love for her.


But the problem is that since i love her this way i start expecting such love from her. I have always given her my 100%..and i dont know whether.. i FEEL dat shes not giving me her 100% (or even 30 % ) in return or whether shes ACTUALLY giving it to me bt i am not feeling it. I know she loves me alot so much that she would die for me ( so would i ) and she cares for me alot too. But she hardly ever expresses it. Whenevr i am with her shes cracking jokes and doing all sorts of things that friends do like entertaining but does not love me like how any couple in love would...instead i am the one whos sitting next to her..holding her hand..looking into her eyes..pampering her..and shes the one looking everywhere else except at me..doing all sorts of entertaining stuff which only friends do and not any couple..i agree any couple in love should be best friends too but this does not mean she behaves so all the time..i expect her to love me back more than a friend by expressing it like i do.i dont think she does this intentionally but maybe her nature is like this..but watever the cause it frustrates me alot and sometimes makes me really depressed.


We have discussed this very often and i have told her that i get frustrated and keep thinking about it all the time and cant concentrate on other things..she does try to love me after me telling her such things but i just dont like it when she starts expressing her love only when i xplain her and i tell her to..
coz i expect her to do it not coz i am telling her but coz she loves me..somehow her lack of expressing love to me..always gets me depressed and then i happen to remove that depression on her by fighting with her or taunting her ( not harshly ). I have tried all possible ways to make her understand how i feel when i dont get dat love from her..i have opened up this topic so that we can discuss it..i have tried not loving her ( or acting not to love her ) thats behaving the same way like she does when i am with her so that she understands how it feels when she does the same thing to me..i have fought with her..xplained her with love..tried all possible ways i could think of to make her understand it and she does understand it but after a few days gets back to the way she use to be.

I have given up on telling her and at the same time i remain frustrated if i dont tell her.
But i feel..when u r in love..u expect that person to surprise you and express all her love and do things beyond your expectations.. dats how people make eachother feel special..ands dats wat makes love so special.
We have become intimate..but it was more like i was intimate with her and again she wasnt expressing it..she told me she loved me but I don`t feel it from the way she behaves when shes with me.
I feel like letting her know how much i love her all the time..but then i feel i m not getting any love in return from her..n feel I should take a step back.i have to tell her to do this and love this way whereas she should herself be doing it.
i really love her and want to marry her but sometimes i feel how entire life i will be able to stay in this situation coz i will keep thinking about all this.


i know she loves me alot..its only that she cant express it and it keeps me frustrated.
PLEASE dont tell me to leave her or that i shudnt expect these things( her expressing love ) from her coz i have tried but i am certain i cant.
please help me by telling me wat i can do to make her understand me and make her express the love she has for me.

i know this is long but i just dint know how else to explain this situation so that you realise how serious i am and you can help me get out of it.
i am really feeling very sad and low about this situation.
may god bless u for trying to understand me and help me.

[Bonfire]

That's just how she is. Loving someone means accepting them for who they are. What if she thought you were kind of needy but she loves you nonetheless.