No kiss after 4 dates...wtf?

[Riku]

Incognito, that's why I said I'm curious if after that initial contact is out of the way if he'll be more relaxed if not then I will move on. I agree with Mathias but that doesn't mean I'm gonna tell this guy it's off yet. I'll see him again and make a move somehow and see if that opens him up.

[bulrush]

Stop whining and kiss him yourself.

[IncognitoSir]

The first few dates, you can find out a lot about a person if you look for it.

Of course, that's why theyre dating to learn about each other. Is their a 4 date maximum to find out everything you need to know?

Why invest yourself in a relationship that's going to disappoint you?

That would be silly, but since they're dating and not in a relationship I can't see how it applies. This is the learning phase.People often date for months before they actually enter into a relationship.

People don't change.

Uhhhhh. Ok, we all know people change.......often, but in this case to say she "knows" the guy after 4 dates.......doubt it. After 4 dates the only thing she's said she "knows" is that he likes her or at least that's all she's said. So I'd be willing to beat she doesn't know much at all about him.

She's not looking for someone that's shy. That's going to bother her - a lot. Why stay in something like this?

Because apparently it's not about him being shy, this thread is titled "No kiss after 4 dates". If he'd kissed her at the end of the fourth date, we wouldn't have this thread up nor would he be labeled shy. To add, I dated my ex for well over 4 dates before we kissed. I'm not shy at all and neither is she. Bottom line, if you like the guy continue to date him, but if he doesn't fit your time line of making a move, move on to a guy who will tongue you down as soon as he feels he has a chance.

[Riku]

Lol. Well incognito that's my question. I don't have a timeline I'm just confused why he hasn't. If you say you aren't shy why did you wait longer than 4 dates to kiss her? I've never went past two without a kiss so I'm trying to find out why someone would be waiting, granted shyness is an obvious one but you said you aren't...

What I do know about him, his last relationship was 4 years ago and since then he's dated a few girls but nothing has lasted more than a month. Maybe he's just taking things really slow? If that's the case I don't know about kissing him myself because I don't want to rush him. But like someone else said I'm probably over thinking things, bad habit of mine.

[Bonfire]

I hope he keeps it up and sets a world record for the most consecutive dates of not kissing a girl. Wouldn't that be cool, Riku?

[Riku]

Yeah, that would be awesome! Then I can pretend like I'm back in my horrible marriage again where no one touches anyone.

[Bonfire]

Yeah, that would be awesome! Then I can pretend like I'm back in my horrible marriage again where no one touches anyone.

Oh that's awful. Had no idea u went through that. I guess my joke wasn't so appropriate there.

[Riku]

Hahaha...no worries I'm completely over it. I can take a joke

[vashti]

I completely understand Mathias' point of view, but I think it may be worth it to simply ASK him why he hasn't kissed you yet. He may think you aren't inviting enough, or he may think he is demonstrating real respect and caring by waiting, or he may have some conservative views about intimate behavior, or he may just be shy.