No kiss after 4 dates...wtf?

[Riku]

Fairly simple question, why would a guy wait so long to kiss a girl? I've never had someone take so long. I know that he likes me, he texts me immediately after our dates and the next morning. He's brought me flowers, he just offered to fix something in my house for me, etc. At first I thought he was nervous or just being a gentleman but my god!!! This is taking forever!!!

[DarkHelmet82]

make the move yourself....

[Katmeow85]

He probably is too nervous. You should kiss him first.

[Riku]

I don't know how, I never have had to do that. I'm worried about seeming pushy if I make that move, I mean if he's nervous or uncomfortable I don't want to get shot down or it be a horrible kiss because he is caught off guard or something.

[MaidenMinx]

You're over thinking it. You'll feel the moment that the tension mounts and you'll know he wants it as much as you.

[Riku]

That's what I'm waiting for but I feel like it should have happened by now ya know?

[TheTooya]

I vote my a move too! It sounds like he might be shy/ not know what to do, a little physical push in the right direction doesn't hurt!

[Boisdevie]

Look dear we are living in the 21st century. You know, an age of equality, an age of sexual liberation. So stop ****ing around and kiss him.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Girls are so ****ing dumb.

[Riku]

Hahaha! How am I being dumb?

And Bois, I'm not saying I'm against making the move first it's just I've never had to so I'm being self conscious about it. That and I don't know how because physically he keeps enough distance that I can't. I mean unless I run over and jump on him or grab him and pull him closer but that seems weird doesn't it? I'm saying the situation hasn't presented itself basically. I don't know why he's keeping that distance

[Mathias]

Hahaha! How am I being dumb?

You're not, it's a legitimate concern. Ignore the ridiculousness - remember, a lot of people on this forum are going through crappy romantic times.

I agree that you should make the move yourself, but be warned getting into this - it is a sign of things to come. If you want to be in control and determine the direction of the relationship from here on out, great. If you want him to take charge, you have the wrong guy.

[Riku]

I've thought about that Mathias and that's a major concern as well as the possibility that he just isn't a very physical person. Both things I can't deal with. I'm not ok being the initiator the majority of the time. But I need to figure out if he's just being nervous and that will go away once this weird tension is broken or is this just him? It's messing with my head because my ex was very attentive, would hold my hand all the time, grab it if he had to and the same with kisses, he would kiss me all the time no matter where we were. I'm comparing them because the ex is still a fresh thing not to mention him wanting to get back together, but that's another mess I'm dealing with...

[Mathias]

I've thought about that Mathias and that's a major concern as well as the possibility that he just isn't a very physical person. Both things I can't deal with. I'm not ok being the initiator the majority of the time. But I need to figure out if he's just being nervous and that will go away once this weird tension is broken or is this just him? It's messing with my head because my ex was very attentive, would hold my hand all the time, grab it if he had to and the same with kisses, he would kiss me all the time no matter where we were. I'm comparing them because the ex is still a fresh thing not to mention him wanting to get back together, but that's another mess I'm dealing with...

I don't think that's an issue with your ex. I think you learned from your ex exactly what you want. That's good, and should be carried over.

I don't think this guy is going to work out for you though, given what you've said. He's not aggressive enough.

[IncognitoSir]

Its funny how people find 1 single opinion they agree with and run with it. Maybe he's shy....you're clearly too shy to kiss him as well. Maybe you're sending mixed signals, women can be hard to read a lot of the times. Fear of rejection is keeping you guys lips from locking up. To say that you making the first move sets the tone of the relationship from here on out is ridiculous.

[Mathias]

Its funny how people find 1 single opinion they agree with and run with it. Maybe he's shy....you're clearly too shy to kiss him as well. Maybe you're sending mixed signals, women can be hard to read a lot of the times. Fear of rejection is keeping you guys lips from locking up. To say that you making the first move sets the tone of the relationship from here on out is ridiculous.

The first few dates, you can find out a lot about a person if you look for it. Why invest yourself in a relationship that's going to disappoint you?

People don't change. She's not looking for someone that's shy. That's going to bother her - a lot. Why stay in something like this?