I've been using Okcupid since 2006 and I haven't found what I'm looking for. They have a decent matching algorithm, but I went to Plentyoffish.com. They have a better matching algorithm and things look better for me.
I also use "specialty sites", that cater to more specific interests. You want to find a girl who wants to throw chocolate pudding at you? There's probably a dating site for that. You liked to be spanked? There's a site for that. (PM me.)
Anyway, many girls I have talked to say they don't like to be hit on in a public place like a library or beach. They go there for a certain purpose, not to get hit on. So, that's why I focus on using dating sites. I can find someone more compatible to me by reading their profile and using the match engine.
Last edited by bulrush; 15-07-11 at 10:36 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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