I've been with him for 9 months in a long distance relationship, we see each other about twice a month, he has an apartment in my town. The 1st month he had a party at his place and his old friend (a girl) came with a girl, let's call her Alice. She looked really good. The next day he tells me "that girl, Alice, she was nice" Didn;t read much into it.. Next day she adds us both on Facebook.
Next month, he was talking about making a list of people for his birthday party, a small one like 15 people.. and he says I think I'll invite Alice too. I said, what? you only met her once and you invite her to your birthday? I thought you want to invite only close friends! Have you been talking since? He said no, I only talked to her once, at the party. And he said, oh, but she's coming with my friend. Anyway, I told him not to invite her and after a fight he didn't.
A few weeks later, he leaves his yahoo messenger open and I couldn't help but look in his mail. And surprise, he was talking to her via Facebook messages. It was only small talk, but still, he lied to me. I confronted him, he said he didn't tell me cause he wanted to avoid a fight. And then he said if I really wanted to talk to her, I would've added her on messenger but I didn't ask for her ID.
I forgave him eventually..
A few more weeks later, without trying to snoop, I opened a text file on his desktop named "useful things" There he had some links, bank accounts etc and an id, something like Alice19897 . I asked him who's id is this, he said oh, it's not that alice, it's someone else. I checked on a website her ID and her picture appeared. He said that he got the ID from his friend but same line, he didn;t want to start a fight so he didn't tell me.We also had a fight then, I asked him to delete her from facebook. He did, but after asking him several times.
A few months pass, he tells me oh, Alice sent me again a request on Facebook and I'll add her, just because I don't want her to think I've got something against her. I said I didn't want him to do that but he said he adds who he wants and he did. But promised me that he won;'t talk to her and he;d tell me if he did.
Time passes and again, he forgets his messenger open and I searched his e-mail .. to find out that they were talking again.. small talk..but also he was saying cute names to her and kisses, good night. I wanted to break up with him, he said they were talking like friends and he says cute names to everybody and so on. I also found a message from his friend saying "Alice asked me if you're single". Then I told him I want to change his relationship status on Facebook for people to see he's not, but he didn't want to, saying it;'s pathetic to do that.
Anyway, 2 weeks later he comes to my town and the first night he says babe, I want to go out with just the guys, I'll call you when I come home. When he comes home, I ask him who you were with? Was Alice there?(I just asked him without suspecting something) and because he thought someone told me about it, he said..oh..yes.. she stood at our table but the table was big.. And I got upset again cause he didn't want me to come cause it was a guys night and then he tells me girls were at the table too.
Should I break up with him? He says he has nothing to do with her and that he wouldve slept with her by now if he wanted to, but all these lies, why is he lying to me and hiding things if he says he doesn't want her?
Thank you!