I agree with you here completely. I was way to attached to my ex, he was the world to me, everything. I didn't ever think of us breaking up. Him + me = us. That was an unbreakable fact. I was wrong. Nothing is written in stone. And I also agree no one is worth this amount of pain.
The trouble with Wakeup's message is that it's off-topic. My post has never been about which I'd prefer but about letting go and moving on afterwards. How do you even get to think something else? I am really shocked!Originally Posted by Jenswaiting
I am very sorry for your loss.Originally Posted by Jenswaiting
And that's the difference I think: with death you have no other choice. You have to move on. Or at least try as good as you can. Some never manage.
With break-ups you first have to get to the point of accepting the end of the relationship. I think this is what makes the letting go harder. I am not talking about sadness and all the emotions connected with death or break-up or which is worse. But with death you know that it's over, even if you struggle with the fact and don't want to believe it. Breakup leaves this little door to re-unition open. So close this door first. And I think what makes it even harder is when you were not the one leaving because then you usually did not want to break-up at all. As with me. So I have to close this door although I never wanted to close it at all. This is what makes it so hard. Thanks, Jenswaiting, you helped me to realize an important part of my puzzle here.