Hello all, was wondering on some advice when it comes to this situation. I had been with my girlfriend for just over two years and we were happily together and were perfect for each other and I still believe we are!
Her mother died 2 years ago and her father passed away just after our two year mark. She went home to be with her sister (only surviving relative) and I had been and have been faithfully by her side supporting her and giving her the time she needs to grieve. Finally she decided to come here to me again (we live 4 hours apart) and spend some time here I was so excited but she came to tell me she just needs space right now and can't love anyone. I respected that a lot and we went on a 'break' to give her the space and time she needs. Time goes by and we talk about what we really want in life. She has only had me as a boyfriend and starts to say she may want to date around to make sure me and her are really the right ones to be together so that she has no regrets later in life. I respect that as well! I cannot control her and say no its me or no one? So at that point we broke up officially.
Now, i learn she has been dating a guy that she met online. She has only spent 1 week with him in real life (so they barely really know each other), he does not treat her right, he verbally abuses her, and for some reason she is trying so hard to make it work with this guy. (i think just for the sake of dating around) He lives on the other side of the country and because of her not being with me and the possible forfeit of their house to the state because of her parents passing and no funds to cover that, she is considering moving down there to live with him. Which I can only chalk up to 'just because they are the ones that are together right now'.
To sum this up, I never got my real chance to be with her forever. I'm totally heartbroken, I was soooo good to her and because of the terrible circumstances she lost all love for everyone and ended up with a guy that it totally not for her at all. I have the feeling it will not work out between them at all but I don't want her to even do this to herself. I love her too much. But I don't wanna come off like I'm a total psycho and always asking her to be with me or anything. It's her life right? Her decisions? I want her back, but I also want her to be with me. So any advice out there? What should I be doing? I've told her that no matter what I'll always be here for her and that she will always have a special place in my heart. And whatever she does (its her life and her decisions) it'll be okay with me as long as she is happy. I just really hope she realizes how much love she could get right now from me!
Oh ya and why do all the nice guys that treat girls like princesses finish last every time?