I know that this forum has certainly heard this before, or at least the title. Anyway, I will get right down to it, and would appreciate any advice that I may get here.
I met this girl and we talked for a while on the internet, on messenger etc. We finally decided to meet and hangout, and for both of us, it was like an instantaneous attraction. I had never experienced anything like it in my life. I have dated quite a few women, and none of them affected me in this way. Anyway, everything moved pretty quickly, and she wanted to see me a lot, I loved seeing her, we kissed on the first date, all that kind of stuff. Well, she told me that she was starting to fall for me, and I just could not believe this, like I thought I was in a dream for a while. We were both very thrilled and excited to have met someone that made us feel this way. She said that she would smile all day because I was on her mind, etc. The things dreams are made of I guess. After a few weeks, I started to notice a change in her actions towards me. She did not seem nearly as excited to see me. Eventually, we split which totally killed me. I had never opened myself up to a woman like her. We had dated like a total of three weeks, kinda crazy I know. I had stayed at her place multiple nights, we had cuddled, watched movies, etc. It was amazing to be honest. No sex though, we both had said that we wanted to wait and make this work right. So when we split, she told me that I was too needy, dependent, insecure. Unfortunately, with some time to clear my head away from her, I have realized that she was totally right. My behavior was ridiculous. I had been texting her all the time saying I love you, I miss you, have a nice day, etc. I was worried that I was going to lose her all the time. One day when she had a bad day, I had a huge thing of bright pink roses sent to her as a surprise. I moved way to quickly and totally messed it up by just being so constant and intense about the whole thing. I mean I said I loved her after like a week. Ugh. Hindsite is sooo hard. I can't believe that I acted like that looking back, and I have never acted like that in my entire life. She is a very independent and busy person, and at the time, I guess I was the opposite. We have been talking since the split which was exactly a week ago. I have been having a much harder time with this than I have with any other woman. After some thinking about the best move, whether I should just give up or grind on, I talked to her about what was up with us. She basically said that there is no chance of us getting together right now, because the whole deal I did is so fresh and just happened, this I can understand. We are going to remain friends. I kind of eluded to wanting to give things another try and I acknowledged that my behavior was ridiculous. Basically she told me that right now its not going to work, like I can't get her back, and go back to normal I guess, but she also said that maybe later it could happen. She said that she cannot take my insecure feelings right now.. So my question is.. what do I do? Am I just peeing into the wind or is it worth me sticking things out and trying to get her back? I really feel like I should keep sticking to it, and seeing what might happen. I scared her off with my stupid obsessive behavior.. and I want to show her that I can function and be a normal person, it sounds bad, but that is the truth. I kind of want to start over and see what I can do this time. Hopefully that is possible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank You!