This is to girls out there, I'm trying to understand girls and what they're trying to say. Sorry for the grammars, any way. I was hanging out with this girl for like 2 weeks now. about the third week. I ask her, if i ever ask you out for to go on a date with me would you considered going? she replied, "You see me more than most people, we have hung out quite a bit, and i do like you, but right now, i'm not fit for dating... but i would like to continue hanging out" Is this mean she's not ready, and i have to be patient abit more?
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09-08-11, 09:57 AM #1
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asking a girl for a date and she reply like this....
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09-08-11, 10:21 AM #2
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I weep for our educational system.
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09-08-11, 10:28 AM #3
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I'm not from USA to begin with, but i live in USA now
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09-08-11, 10:30 AM #4
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My apologies.
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09-08-11, 10:46 AM #5
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no problem its cool
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09-08-11, 11:33 AM #6
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She pretty much gave you the answer you're looking for. She isn't ready for dating but like to hang out with you. So if you enjoy hanging out and don't mind waiting then just give it time.
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09-08-11, 06:32 PM #7
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Sweet, she's a nice girl. I don't wanna mess this up
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09-08-11, 08:40 PM #8
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She does not want to date you, but she wants to be your friend. Nothing more.
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09-08-11, 11:43 PM #9
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I agree with Jen and unless she shows you clearly, through body language that she's open to something physical with you then you've just been delegated to "The Friend Ladder." Google "Ladder Theory" so that you don't find yourself in that position and it being impossible for you to get out of.
Anyway it's definately clear that she doesn't want to date you in the traditional romantic sense. If she did I don't think she'd have refused your invitation.“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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10-08-11, 05:27 AM #10
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Ah I will keep that in mind thanks, I'm looking for a relationship not looking for girl just to have sex. I don't believe in that, In a way i think its bad. I'll continue to hang out with her and see how it is. As for body language i have no idea on that. What's a good sign that she's open to me.
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11-08-11, 12:17 AM #11
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Originally Posted by kanti
Its a sugar coated way of saying ''NO!''
"Im not fit for dating" = excusing herself so she doesnt get to date you/not attacted to you/doesnt like you enough to go out with you.
"I Would like to continue hanging out" means = You are stuck in the friendszone and will not get FWB.
Start looking for another girl...and stop hanging around with her. Sorry bro, it is what it is.
Im gonna say it again because 100% amen to what jen said. STOP HANGING AROUND WITH HER... Look for another. Originally Posted by Jenswaiting
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11-08-11, 10:16 PM #12
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She's trying to tell you in a nice way that's she's not interested in YOU.
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thanks for the advice, i'm starting to see that now. Because today i was hanging out with her and all of the sudden she's leaving. She said she's being backin or something. I'm guessing someone text her. So i found that out the hard way, oh well. I didn't notice this until today. Life goes on i guess, too bad that i liked her alot. one sided love suck, time to move on. Originally Posted by kanti
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26-08-11, 01:51 AM #14
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It seems like you might need to settle with just being friends, but if you enjoy hanging out with her then that should be cool too! Who knows, maybe once she gets to know you better it will evolve into something more, but for now don´t get your hopes up too much.
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