I need advice (pretty long)

[jasmin.scanavin]

Okay So my name is jasmin, His name is James


We met on newyears of 2011, and we started talking in february, we have been dating since then. He is 18 and I am 20.
I was there for his highschool graduation and I have met his parents, a few of his friends, He has also met mine and All of my friends. He is now in college and I am a stay at homer, working on my very own online business. We live together. We have been for about a month, but we have always since like day one, spent alot of time together. He was very romantic and did all the very sweet things in the beginning... Since then he has slowed down alot, on the sweet things, he still tells me sweet things but.. he doesnt seem very appreciative of the things i do for him. Any way here is my issue, My most recent relationship was 4 years, and it was a VERY bad relationship, with abuse, lies, cheating, the works. So naturally Im VERY insecure and Very emotional. He recently started college, and has made a group of new friends.. a few girls and a few guys, None of which he has told me anything good about, of course he thinks they are fine, but I think other wise. Well he has been spending alot of time with them, including nights. Supposedly to save on gas, because its 20 dollars a day to and from school so a hundred a week. which is giving to him from his parents, and myself.

I find my self, maddly in love and maybe you guys think it was quick or that we are to young for our status.. but honestly Im not out for a young relationship, I need something mature and ready to move quick..


Well i find my self, VERY untrusting and insecure all the time.
Im always calling him and texting him. and when he doesnt answer i get pretty mad...
Im always making the worst of every situation.
AND i despise him staying the night out...

I know that your not gonna be able to tell me what to do, and What you say might hurt, but I really need the truth, to maybe open my eyes... to something im not seeing or something im doing wrong..

[searock]

What is the question precisely..?

It seems like you're too clingy and jealous because of your insecurities and abusive past relationship, and that is probably making him gradually detach himself from you. Try to chill out a bit and things will be fine.

[jasmin.scanavin]

I guess the question is.

Should I be insecure, that hes hanging out with girls?!!?
I dont feel like he even wants to give me a few minutes when hes with his friends....
I try everything I can to make sure he's happy.. but i feel left behind

[searock]

The fact that he's hanging out with girls shouldn't bother you in itself. If he is in love with you, it won't matter how many female friends he has: his feelings for you won't change based on that.

Do you hang out with him and his friends sometimes? Are these the times in which he doesn't give you enough attentions? And what exactly do you mean by that, what would you want to get that you don't see coming from him?

[IndiReloaded]

You are 20. You just came out of a 4 year relationship w/lies, cheating, etc? That means you were 16. A teenager, as hormone charged and drama-filled as they come.

Where is your family?? He is supporting you?? This whole situation sounds messed up. Before you know it, you will be pregnant and bringing a poor kid into your miserable world.

What you need is counselling. I suspect you have family issues out the yin-yang. And to go to college. Your internet business isn't likely to fly with all your other problems. Not saying give it up, but get some education that will actually make you effective at running a business.