Things he did not tell me

[elmore44]

Yeah you are right everyone has basically given the same opinion. I guess I keep looking for another answer. Not what I need to hear but what I want to hear.

[IndiReloaded]

Everything that Carl said and... trust your gut. Be safe.

[archangel]

It comes down to trust. Don't feel you have to settle. People can change, but they have to want to. From what you have said, he doesn't seem to have. I can understand not telling you in the first few months, but as has been mentioned before; after 3 years? Why was he still hiding it from you. A healthy relationship needs trust through open communication, and if he has hidden this for so long, what else is he hiding? I am all for second chances, but here the stakes are just too high. Also as has been mentioned before, just how much do you trust him? But keep in mind that the first responsibility you have is to be honest with yourself and trust yourself, specifically with these answers. Because ultimately you have to decide what action to take (or not).