This is something that happens to me repeatedly. I meet a girl, usually in a restaurant bar or a bar (that's just where I normally meet women), get her number, plan a date, call her up and ask her out. We talk on the phone, everything is going fine. The day of the date, a few hours beforehand, I'll call to let her know when and where we'll meet, etc.
I have noticed the pattern. If she doesn't answer the phone when I call and she doesn't call right back within minutes, they flake out on the date every time. This happens to me ALL the time. I don't know if they are getting nervous or playing games or if they've just lost interest and are no longer attracted to me.
It kills me because these women might be really good for me, but because I am getting flaked on, lately I've been ending the pursuit there. I could be waling away from some good women. Obviously, their behavior is pretty normal because most women do this to me.
The pattern is this, I call, she doesn't answer. I either leave a voice mail or I hang up and send a text.
I've found that if I wait a few days and try again, and continue the pursuit later, they'll usually go out with me, but lately, I'm getting to the point of just ending the chase at this point.
I understand some women want to "feel pursued". But to me, this is a just plain rude. Maybe they are testing to see just how bad I really want to see them...how sincere I am. Maybe they think I'm a "player" and this is their way of testing me, to see how I react.
When a girl flakes out on me like this, should I A.) pretend like it doesn't bother me at all and not send a text or call for a few days, then re-initiate pursuit? B.) Text something along the lines of disappointment at the time of the flake or a few hours later to show that I was sincere about seeing her and now I feel rejected or C.) something else?
Really need help with this. Thanks.