Hello, I'm in a situation that is quite difficult for me. I'll give some background on the relationship. I'm 27 and she is 23, we have been dating for a little over 5 months. We see eachother an average of 3 times a week. I consistently set up fun and romantic dates with her. I get her flowers and other small gifts periodically on whim to surprise her. I'm supportive of her and try to be there for her in the good and bad times.
Now that I have given some background info. I'll touch on my concerns. I tell her periodically how I enjoy being with her/ that I care about her/ hopes/ dreams/ etc. The normal things you would expect to say and discuss in a relationship. I compliment her always show genuine interest in her. With that being said. She will never bring up any relationship talk, she never tells me she enjoys being with me, she never compliments me. The only way to get anything out of her is if I said something and she will reciprocate it half- heartedly. Such as If I said 'I care about you', then she would repeat the same statement back.
When I do really thoughtful or romantic things for her I get a lukewarm response typically. For instance recently I bought 50 candles arranged them around my house and got her some chocolates and made her dinner all in the same night. When she walked in and saw the candles there was not a glint of excitement at all. Sometimes I get a little more of a response, but rarely do I get much of any from her.
If I am having a bad day and voice that to her, I get no sympathy or support whatsoever. She just avoids the conversation or changes the subject. This is all bearable to an extent. I know she does care for me, but just has some sort of inability to express it. But, when she is on her period for a solid 8 days her negative traits I have discussed are magnified in addition to her being hostile. I have brought up some of this with her occasionally, but I'm afraid it will just cause resentment and anger with her. Or cause her to think I'm too sensitive. I am feeling drained. I give and give and get so little in return. I just don't feel loved in our relationship.
Anyways, this was a little long winded. What I want to know is has anyone had or is having a similar experience. If so, how did you deal with it or are dealing with it? Or does anyone have any advice. If anyone wants more information I'll gladly oblige.