Am I a nympho? Why doesn't he want sex?

[Venus+Mars]

Ok, so 2 years in to our relationship and over the past 2 months our sex life has taken a dive, sometimes it feels like we only have sex just to satisfy me and keep me quiet.

I am a sexual person and if I had my way I would have it every night. In the beginning he loved the fact I was so sexual and he couldn't get enough, now its gone from 4-5 times a week to once if I am lucky. I am becoming very frustrated, we used to have a great sex life.

Recently he will kiss me seductively, have a feel and turn over to sleep. I understand that he may not want it every night but if he'd just communicate with me I wouldn't get so frustrated by the lack of sex, instead he starts the engine but doesn't drive! I am so attracted to him, the slightest touch and I am off, he used to be the same. Now I get excuses that he's tired all the time.

Yesterday, I decided to discuss it with him rather than letting it eat me up wondering if it was me he'd gone off.

I told him I needed to have a conversation with him but before I started I said please don't take this personally, I just need to understand what's going on so I don't worry this is something it isn't. He agreed we could talk. I thought this was the beginning of an adult conversation that would come to a resolution or a least some enlightenment.

I asked why we don't have sex often any more and if something had changed?

His response:
Sex gets boring and I can't be arsed but its not you. If that's not good enough fu*k off and find someone else, maybe you'd be happier with a p*rn star, that's it I have had it with your sh*t!

He stormed out of our room, slammed doors, knocked canvases off the wall and got in to bed in the spare room. He has not spoken to me since, and to be honest I wouldn't know what to say if he did.

I am really hurt, what the hell, I really did not expect this response.

Should I be worried? How do I resolve this, do I just give him space to think about his actions? I didn't deserve this response did I? I am trying to take my own advice and not take it personal but its very difficult because of the way he acted.

Men what is going on here? Any ladies been through this with there partners? Should I just give up now? Helpppppppppp?

Thanks

[romantic_guy]

Wow, I have NEVER had this problem even after 39 years of marriage. I want sex all of the time! My wife, not as much, but at least we usually make love at least 3X a week. Now, don't get me wrong, we have a great relationship and I am not complaining, but...DAMN...if she were like you...WOW!!! Most guys can only dream of that. Even if somehow I did not feel like it, too tired etc., I would give her oral. I should say that it does happen when we are away for a romantic trip (on our anniversary trip to Cancun she was like that).

A couple of observations: He certainly does not communicate well. Does he respond this way when confronted about any subject?

Is he watching a lot of porn? It can desensitize you sexually to the point where regular sex is boring and you need more stimulus to get off.

You may have to decide if you want to remain in such a relationship.

[whenweawake]

Maybe he has a medical issue where he can't be aroused enough and is ashamed to talk about it. That seemed like an harsh response to a simple question which makes me think its a personal matter.

[Boisdevie]

He sounds like a dickhead. If it's not working for YOU then dump him and move on.

[searock]

It's possible that he has a problem of some sort (erectile dysfunction, idk) and that's why he reacted like that when you told him that you wish you had sex more often. Maybe he felt embarrassed and hurt, or something. Otherwise I can't think of a reason for him to react so defensive-aggressive.

[upandaway]

Could be a medical or mental disorder, does he have any tendencies towards depression? Could it be possible that hes having an affair?

[bulrush]

You didn't deserve this reaction. He is not telling you something important. Maybe he is having erectile dysfunction problems. Many men are embarrassed about it so you have to be the one to bring it up.

Or maybe he is tired and resentful of always taking the lead. Maybe he wants you to take control and start things.

Or maybe he is angry about something else. He sure was angry though. Or maybe just childish. Is he prone to acting childish?

[sadie_genie]

Guys lose interest in sex when you are too easy. It is like everything else in life, when it is too easy, people lose interest. But I think his response might not just be for that reason. The rudeness might have to do with some kind of resentment he built up from something else. Maybe have a talk with him and ask him what it is without humiliating his manhood by suggesting he has problems, erectile dysfunction, etc.

[lovely2082]

i got tearyed eye when i read this.. i love my bf but weve been having our ups and downs like crazy. our sex life used to be so strong too and he loved me always wanting it. now hes just like "i just got off work,, its been a long day.. blah blah blah"... maybe he has lost interest in you? I know i have been gaining weight and i think that is losing his interest but i said if he doesnt accept me for me, ill replace him. a guy like that isnt WORTH it. heck maybe we should be with porn stars huh??? i gave him a 3some out to spice our relationship with my friend, but it was all a stupid drunken mistake. and now i am upset over it and he doesnt know how to deal with it

[bulrush]

Guys lose interest in sex when you are too easy. It is like everything else in life, when it is too easy, people lose interest.

Not true with me.

I like a girl that's highly sexual, so we can all get satisfied with sex, and move on to develop other parts of our relationship. Otherwise, sex is just distracting and other parts of our relationship suffer.

[dnumde]

That kind of response, you would imagine, had some motivation. Is there something you said or did that you have omitted from your explanation, either because you thought (erroneously) was unimportant or you'd forgotten you'd said it? If there's nothing, his reaction is inexplicable, especially if he's not prone to that kind of outburst. I would say that you should demand an answer. If it means a big row then so be it, although you shouldn't try to provoke one. You should just demand he answer your sensitive questions and try to reassure him that you love him and simply want to understand. If he's still aggressive you might need to cold shoulder him till he gets fed up and wants to talk to you.

[lovely2082]

Guys lose interest in sex when you are too easy. It is like everything else in life, when it is too easy, people lose interest. But I think his response might not just be for that reason. The rudeness might have to do with some kind of resentment he built up from something else. Maybe have a talk with him and ask him what it is without humiliating his manhood by suggesting he has problems, erectile dysfunction, etc.

my bf said being easy is a turn off too. .. he also says im demanding so i been trying to be 'sexy' to get it but still ud want ur man to start it