It's not about age, it's about maturity and similarities. 2 years is not much of an age gap. My grandparents had a 13 year age gap, which would be a scandal today.
Maturity:
- Does she show maturity? If she wants to party every weekend, that's fine, as long as she doesn't lose her job and can still pay her bills.
- Can she balance a checkbook and manage money? Can she spend less than she earns?
- Can she save for the future, like for retirement, a house, or a down payment on a car?
- Does she have her own apartment yet? Can she pay the bills without running out of money?
- Does she even have a job which would allow her to pay her own bills? Or will she always have a dead-end job and a roommate?
- How do you feel about earning most of the money, while she spends it? Are you ok with that?
Relationships:
- Can she talk about your differences without yelling, raising her voice, or blaming?
- Can she compromise on things, even things that are difficult for her?
- How does she act when stressed? Does she take it out on you or the dog? Or does she let go of stress when she is done with school/work? How a person acts when stressed is a BIG indicator of their personality. It's now how they deal with the good times that matter, it's how they deal with the bad times.
- What does SHE think are the fundamental ideas in a successful long-term relationship?
Couples most fight about these things, so you must be very compatible in these areas:
- Finances and how to run them. Do you both agree how to spend and save money?
- Sex, how often. How often do you both want to have sex. If you compromised, would you both still be happy?
- Kids. How many and when. How many kids do you have and when do you want to have them.
- Kids and discipline. Are you firm and fair with discipline? Or you overly harsh? Or do you let the kids run amok in the house?
- What if she has friends you despise? How do you handle it? How do you compromise on this?
Last edited by bulrush; 19-10-11 at 12:24 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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