Spanking or something else?

[gingerina]

What does it really mean when a guy sends you messages that he wants to give you a good spanking? Does it always mean hard core sex? Or could it be just mental discipline etc? So my question is that is it a sexual implication?

Ps. I have known him for a while and he flirts with me a lot every time he sees me. I like him but I have boyfriend....

[oldskool83]

i wants to be ruff with you.

[surfhb]

Flirting too

[HeartIsAching]

Why don't you ask HIM what he means?

[Yet another guy]

So my question is that is it a sexual implication?

It might. It could be flirting. Then again, it might just be friendly banter. Does he know you have a boyfriend?

[Hayden10]

hmmm....spanking you are one lucky girl..lol

[gingerina]

Thank you for your reply!

Actually he has been asking if I have a boyfriend for a long time, but I never wanted to tell him, because I had this attitude that what is it for him? We have kind of a professional relationship with this guy so I always thought he was crossing the line by getting too personal. I just simply didn’t answer to his questions about my love life and I changed a subject every time he started to ask about it.

He has told me many times he likes me and he always compliments me saying how beautiful, cute and sexy I am which is fine. He says I'm perfect. I always found his flirt harmless so far.

Anyhow now I want to get more serious with my boyfriend so I finally told this guy about my boyfriend. After that he started to send these kinds of spanking messages... He wants to spank me so hard so I couldn’t walk for a long time. He is saying also that my boyfriend is not a man enough for me and he sounds too boring for me etc.

I know I'm a very bad girl but I cannot stop thinking about his spanking suggestion... It's really driving me crazy. I think he hit my sexual nerve...

[Yet another guy]

So, he gave you flirtatious compliments and kept asking if you had a boyfriend but you chose not to tell him. Why didn't you tell him it's none of his business instead of just stringing him along? That way he might have gotten the hint.
It seems that has backfired because he probably has feelings involved now. My guess is that the spanking suggestion and dismissing your boyfriend are meant to give off the bad boy vibe so many girls fall for in hopes of winning you over.

[gingerina]

So, he gave you flirtatious compliments and kept asking if you had a boyfriend but you chose not to tell him. Why didn't you tell him it's none of his business instead of just stringing him along? .

I didn’t tell about my boyfriend first because I wanted to keep our relationship professional. Obviously those days are long gone.

[Yet another guy]

I didn’t tell about my boyfriend first because I wanted to keep our relationship professional. Obviously those days are long gone.

Stringing guy along is not a very good way to keep a relationship professional...

[gingerina]

Stringing guy along is not a very good way to keep a relationship professional...

I never told him anything about my love life so I think I didn't string him along. Yes, I was flirty but only when he started it.

Anyhow do you think he is “playing” a bad boy now only to get my attention? Or is he a bad boy?

[Yet another guy]

I never told him anything about my love life so I think I didn't string him along. Yes, I was flirty but only when he started it.

He flirted with you and you didn't tell him that you're unavailable or reject him in any other way. You even flirted back! Yes, that's stringing guy along.

About whether he is a bad boy or just playing... Maybe you'll find that out if you dump your boyfriend and start dating him.

[gingerina]

Maybe you'll find that out if you dump your boyfriend and start dating him.

Let’s see. All I can think at the moment is him giving me a good spanking because I have been misbehaving so badly. I didn’t realize before that I can actually have these kinds of sexual thoughts. But perhaps it’s only going to stay as fantasy. I have to get it off my head otherwise it’s going to ruin my life.

[bulrush]

I've been reading up on spanking the past few months. This is what I've learned.

1. Spanking is often used with bondage, as a turnon for the spankee. Being bound and helpless is part of the turn on.
2. Spanking usually means sex, but not always. It always means nudity on the part of the spankee.
3. It usually means the spankee is bound, but not always.
4. Spanking can be light, medium, or hard, leaving welts that might last a few days.
5. Spanking might be part of "rough" sex, where the spankee/bound person is treated roughly, called names, and used aggressively. Many women get turned on my their man being extremely masculine, and the man "taking what they want".
6. It's really up to you to define your own limits, which may change over time. Clear communication before anything starts, is critical. Define what you WILL do and what you WON'T do. Have a safe word too, that is normally not used during sex, like "silly putty" or "badonkadonk".

[gingerina]

I've been reading up on spanking the past few months. This is what I've learned.

Thank you. But if you have read so much about it could you tell me if a man suggests this to a woman, what does he really think about her? Just sex or something more? You would think that these kinds of games need 100% trust between the partners.

I’m sure he wanted to tease me and tried to have some kind of a reaction from me. But like we all know behind every joke there is some truth.