Moving Beyond Friendship

[trent0000]

I have plenty of female friends and generally am not intimidated by them. But when i want to move beyond friendship and really get to know a girl i freeze up totally. I find myself unable to talk to them beyond superficial stuff and can't think of ways to get to realll get to know them and end up being 'friendzoned'. It makes me feel totally useless around women and i get so frustrated at myself. Whats the best way to get over this and get to know women better?

[AnnonymousMan]

I'm kind of the same way man. Like chicks you don't find attractive or you don't like you can be whatever around yet once you meet a girl you care about you lock up for some reason.

The best thing to avoid the friends zone is to let her know about your feelings asap. I don't mean tell her you love her the second you see her, I mean ask her if she wants to go out sometime for dinner or if she would like to hangout sometime. Then build up to things. That 'lock up' thing is actually a confidence issue I think. Just be yourself around her and don't let it get to you by telling yourself that she should get to know you and like you for who you really are. Most girls will wait for the guy to make all the moves etc...so maybe you just need dating experience. Besides, after you date a couple chicks your confidence increases.

[trent0000]

Asking people if they want to hang out or something doesn't really come naturally to me. I guess i think i'll come off as a 'creep' if i show a certain level of interest in somebody.

[AnnonymousMan]

Thats true but it depends on how you ask somebody to hangout. There are ways to do it to where you wouldn't sound like some creep. Showing interest in her will let her know you are interested. Doing nothing will show just that, you're not interested.