Online dating, and my picture advice please.

[MerryH]

The photo you posted in the OP and the photos on your blog do not appear to be the same person.

[stuckies]

He actually does mention it in his blog. It was the long r word.

then I missed it.

Still find it odd that someone would post pics of themselves with their nipples on show. But it takes all sorts.

[vashti]

You won't attract straight females with that photo, in which it is obvious you are emphasizing your feminine features rather than your masculine ones.

Maybe you should try an intersex dating site?

[Wakeup]

If I were you, I'd go for the complete sex change and call it a day. You're wearing feminine clothing that highlight your hips and a top that is see-through that shows your nipples. (if a woman posted that on a dating sight that wasn't meant for adult fun it would be removed as a nudity pic on most sites so I'd not post that particular choice) You also wear nail polish and, you indicate in your other thread that your penis has gotten smaller and you need viagra to perform. I'm thinking your hormones have swayed you physically and mentally. (???)

You are interested in woman according to the other thread. Have you ever considered going for the trans-gender surgery and then posting for a woman and/or as mentioned to you before, hitting the gay bars for a female companion?

In any event, I'm sure if you hit a "Loveshack Lifestyle" dating site you will find someone that is interested in you the way you are.

[toughtimes]

I think, the response ive had highlights it all, bad picture to put on a dating site. But i think it also highlights how quick people are to attack what they dont understand, hence i dont go out much anymore. Ill try and answer some questions, i made my blog when i joined this site, because people kept asking what my condition was and how bad was it and so on, so i made a blog and linked it to help explain and show some photos. As far as wearing nail polish, i enjoy painting my nails, maybe my condition has effected my mind, well i know it has but its hard to live 5 years with the wrong hormones in your body, just think how you woman would look and act like if you had testosterone for 5 years ? my nipples are not on show, thats a male top and i have no bra on, it wasent done to show my nipples, but to show the problem i have in clear view to not mislead anyone, which i have followed advice from people on here about that, yes i maybe should stand different but thats how i stand, so why try to be fake and not show how i normally am. I am quite hurt by alot of remarks on here, i tried to explain myself and get real help and look at the shit ive got for it. Also i dont get why the hell some of you think im making this up lol i wished i was, but how would that benefit me ? it wouldent so come on please. Take a look at my blog, if you think im fake and look at the photos [url]http://toughtimes.myblogsite.com/[/url] all i wanted was some advice and abit of help and support. Not be called a troll and a liar and all the rest.

[searock]

The question is - do you only want to attract women?

[alwaystryin]

The nail polish and girl jeans threw me off as well. If you don't want to be a woman then why go so far to look like one? The boobs are one thing, they're a part of you, but everything else.. I don't know.. I'm confused. I'm guessing you're confused. You have a bunch of people on here confused.. this is all very confusing. No one can really help you if you don't know what you want or what you're looking for. I would start there. I can say you seem very comfortable with yourself in the pic.. why not just follow through and become a woman?

[Wakeup]

I think, the response ive had highlights it all, bad picture to put on a dating site. But i think it also highlights how quick people are to attack what they dont understand, hence i dont go out much anymore. Ill try and answer some questions, i made my blog when i joined this site, because people kept asking what my condition was and how bad was it and so on, so i made a blog and linked it to help explain and show some photos. As far as wearing nail polish, i enjoy painting my nails, maybe my condition has effected my mind, well i know it has but its hard to live 5 years with the wrong hormones in your body, just think how you woman would look and act like if you had testosterone for 5 years ? my nipples are not on show, thats a male top and i have no bra on, it wasent done to show my nipples, but to show the problem i have in clear view to not mislead anyone, which i have followed advice from people on here about that, yes i maybe should stand different but thats how i stand, so why try to be fake and not show how i normally am. I am quite hurt by alot of remarks on here, i tried to explain myself and get real help and look at the shit ive got for it. Also i dont get why the hell some of you think im making this up lol i wished i was, but how would that benefit me ? it wouldent so come on please. Take a look at my blog, if you think im fake and look at the photos [url]http://toughtimes.myblogsite.com/[/url] all i wanted was some advice and abit of help and support. Not be called a troll and a liar and all the rest.

To put it bluntly, you're being rather PMS'y about responses that you don't like Well sorry, but that's the way we see it. I'd say that to a guy or a gal who was coming across as so. Seriously. You have gotten honest answers to your question. You will very unlikely attract a hetrosexual female while wearing nail polish and highlighting your femininity.

If you like nail polish and girly things then what do you think about going for a bi-sexual or lesbian lover who wouldn't mind you the way you are?

... This question was asked a number of times, btw: Are you strictly looking for hetrosexual females to date?

... Here's a third question: Are you here to promote your blog as you keep referring to it and without answering specific questions as to who it is you're trying to connect with.

[alwaystryin]

^^^ yup yup.

[Lovable]

What's with the ass pic on your blog too??

I'm confused & will refrain from anymore postings on threads that this OP makes as the truth will come out eventually...it always does.

[MaidenMinx]

I don't think anyone meant to be outright insulting or offensive. This forum sees some weird shit (like some dude repeatedly pretending that he was a 97 yr old virgin) so people often do call troll when something doesn't sit right. It may be the fact that your story is just so confronting and a challenge to the norm that people react. People always react to stuff that challenges the norm. That is all that is happening, and I'm sorry but you are simply going to have to get used to it. It is going to be a rare person that says really? cool. Here have a drink. Most people are going to be stunned into silence or call bullshit.

That is why people suggest you just become female. Best bit if you chose to do that, your boobs are real.

I know you tried to prepare us for how much this has changed your physical appearance from male to female but to see those photos is quite a shock and to be honest if I had 5 years of testosterone in my system and lost my boobs etc, I'd probably embrace androgeny. I've always found everything related to identifying as female annoying. The saddest bit for me is I'm sure I would lose my husband.

Honestly, I can't imagine what you are going through and no one here can relate to it. I'm not saying we can't help but I think you threw us in the deep end here. As for the original thread question, I'd have a pic of your face as the profile pic and a link to your blog. That way if anyone is interested they can see it all for themselves.

Best of luck.

[Mona_B]

I gave you advice before, but after I saw that pic I don't believe it anymore. That doesn't look like a hetero man in a female body, no way. And by the way, pretty slutty too.

Don't know, maybe he/she is living out a fantasy here...