Why make fun?

[malteser]

I'm just curious to know why it is that when a guy likes a girl he makes fun of her? Not in a nasty way but in a sort of playful way, like mimicking what she says or putting her down all the time. Like when they've just met and the guy likes the girl but instead of paying her compliments he will, say, make fun of how she speaks or say things which make her think that maybe he doesn't really like her when actually he's really into her. This is what guys do, right?

[superposition]

Yes, it's true. I do this all the time... but not being a parrot. I just bust their balls, make fun of her... and myself. I just cant be bothered to do that with girls I don't like.

Most guys in general give compliments to a girl they like, but if they're 1 out of the 10000 guys who does exactly the opposite, makes fun of you etc... it makes this guy stand out.

Which is why you posted this thread to begin with, perhaps?

[bcgirl]

I HATE guys who make fun of me.... it makes me feel self conscious and i don't find it amusing. I find older men don't play that way.... they aren't scared to be straight up and give me a nice compliment.

[superposition]

What if the guy you like, makes fun of you?

[bcgirl]

^ I guess in highschool it was common and alright. When your out of highschool and more mature, making fun of a woman is not a way to win her heart. Now that i'm older, i don't have time to be playing games like that

[Red Apollo]

Some guys take playful teasing a little too far. We are trying to be clever, funny, and stand out. Girls have all kinds of guys go up to them/pursue them. So we have to try extra hard to stand out to you. Some guys don't switch it off when they should.

[IndiReloaded]

Its a way of testing how much of his shit she'll put up with if they go longterm. Just tease him back. Sense of humor, all that. Its important.

[annon25]

My boyfriend once told me "It's easier for me to say something mean to you than to say something nice." When I asked why, he said he didn't know...

[bulrush]

Only immature guys do that. And that's one way to spot them and avoid them.

[E.T.]

Ask him if he's one of David DeAngelo's cocky comedy program graduate

[valmont]

Ask him if he's one of David DeAngelo's cocky comedy program graduate

PUA in training? lol

[E.T.]

What's PUA in plain English?
Meant my previous comment above as a joke btw

[valmont]

Pick up artist. David D was into that before he switched to more of a life-style motivational speaker

[Mathias]

Its a way of testing how much of his shit she'll put up with if they go longterm. Just tease him back. Sense of humor, all that. Its important.

Absolutely, 100% this.

I definitely use light teasing, especially early on - to gauge sensitivity levels. If you can't handle that, you're not going to be able to handle a relationship.

[smackie9]

This behavior is part of "pick up". Being a little cocky, and doing a little teasing is a way to get your attention. It's a safer way to make contact without coming on sexually....it's a way to get you to be comfortable around them....playfulness.


I believe it all starts on the play ground in preschool....when you went up to a boy and punched him in the arm because you liked him.