he is mature, sensitive and smart, and after only 6 months we knew it was true love
Six months is actually a reasonable time to determine if you are a good fit for each other.
he had chatted to an ex while we were together,
Big red flag. He doesn't see how this is disrespectful to you.
He couldn't take this- went crazy and drove all hours of the night to see me multiple times, got caught speeding, turned up at my house completely distraught. I forgave him when I saw how much he wanted to fight for me
Yes, he overreacted, another Big Red Flag. You think he wants to fight for you, I think he is desperate, probably because he has cheating tendencies and tendencies for breaking the law (speeding). He is not much for rules, is he?
he could have gotten into a car accident and killed himself. And here you are thinking it was a grand
jester of his love for you, but it's not.
Lol! Freudian slip?
This guy sounds unstable. In your experience, he may seem more mature than other boys you have dated. Talking to his ex, and speeding, is more mature than the other guys you have dated? Wow...I feel sorry for you. I think your emotions are blinding you. Everyone needs love but not at this price.
If you care about someone, let them go and grow up at their own pace. His parents know that girls your age just want babies. Your biological clock is ticking and they know he is not mature enough to be a provider or father (see speeding ticket and emotional cheating).
Yes, maybe you love each other, but that has nothing to do with your compatibility for a long-term relationship, or your relationship skills. Love comes and goes, even within the same relationship. You will fall in love again with someone else. And I hope you learn from this small mistake.
Last edited by bulrush; 05-01-12 at 10:52 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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