Hi there. I'm an 18 year old male and I've been single for a number of months now since my girlfriend broke up with me. Since then I've been on a couple unsuccessful dates that usually result in me breaking it off early.
I'm currently not in school, so meeting girls is kind of a problem. Though I do plan on attending college this september, I'd love to be back in the world of dating and relationships as soon as I can. Although meeting girls is tricky at this point in my life, I can't imagine that there is absolutely NO ONE that I can meet and be interested in.
I believe the problem isn't so much that I CAN'T meet girls right now, it's more that I'm just not attracted to many that I talk to. Since my last relationship it feels as though my standards have been raised, and lowering them seems kind of wrong.
These standards don't seem that unreasonable. In a girl I like to see wit, a sense of humor and an open mind. What's holding me back is probably my idea of beauty. There is a fair balance between these standards and the way a girl looks, and I worry that my judgement of a girl's image is interfering with my ability to flirt and be talkative with them.
I know that looks are not that important compared to the other things I listed, but it's an irrational feeling I can't overlook. How attractive a girl is to me is just kind of important. It's almost as important as wit, a sense of humor and an open mind. I'm not saying a girl whose personality is wrong for me but is attractive will win me over, but it's becoming evident that I need to be attracted to a girl on all levels, and that includes how she looks.
Is this...bad? Is it wrong that I could meet a girl who makes me laugh and has a brain but I won't date her because she isn't physically attractive to me? And if it isn't wrong, then is it unreasonable that I could meet a girl who has these standards but also is attractive? If that's the case, then why is it taking so long for this to fall into place for me? What can I do to meet a wider variety of female personalities so I can meet someone who sparks my interest on all levels?