Hello again to everyone!
Ive posted about this before so please feel free to look over my old posts to get the background info.
Brief summary: On and off seeing someone for about a year and a half, emotional rollercoaster. He said he'd rather be friends. We cut contact for several months, thought that was it for good. (We are both 30).
He got in touch again last October wanting to start again. I was very wary but gave him a chance and we've been seeing each other since then and Im pleasantly surprised that in general he does seem genuine and seems to being keeping up his end of the bargain. He travels two hours to see me most weekends, sometimes during the week. He makes plans and sticks to them. He sends me a text most other days to touch base. He invited me to his birthday party and treated me as his girlfriend in front of his family and friends, he has been around my friends and made an effort with them.
There are a few things though that Im not sure are even issues or just me being overly cautious considering the history between us.
When he was initially trying to 'win me back' He said when we cut contact he had "gone off the rails" for a while He then did alot of thinking about himself and how he deals with things, even saw a counselor. He told me he had decided to let some friendships go and that "going off the rails" wasn't for him anymore. I didn't want to ask him the details of this at the time because I was overwhelmed by everything he was telling me. After a few weeks I asked what he had done when he said he had gone off the rails, he told me he would tell me at a later date. He is a man that is fond of partying anyway so I wonder what more went on that he considers to be too much partying. When I asked him what he had learned about himself that had changed his outlook on our relationship he said it was personal. I realise some things are private but shouldn't he be willing to let me in, in some way? Its only been about 6-8 weeks so far, maybe its too early?
Id love some opinions, thank you.