Are looks important I'm a relationship? When I was with my ex I though about sex with other people when our sex life was going down the pan. I'm scared of we got back together it would be the same deal. I know ideally it should be abit of both but sometimes that's too hard to find.
Everyone is different, so for some people, physical attraction is important. For others, personality is also important. So, since no one is perfect, you have to find a person who is "good enough", who has some of each of the important factors you need in your life.
For me, they girl doesn't have to be a model, but I need someone who is a healthy weight. I can deal with an extra 20 pounds, but her personality seems to be more important to me.
Also, don't let your past make you fearful of the future. You don't want that kind of baggage to interfere with finding just the right person. Because you might find a great person, then the baggage might make you push them away when the relationship gets serious. Trust me, I've been there. But I'm all better now! lol.
Last edited by bulrush; 07-02-12 at 08:51 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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