Originally Posted by
bombboy85
He has posted comments on her facebook before that are kinda messed up to post on the FB of someone in a relationship.
She had wanted to go out with him before me.
Since they met in person there has been a little more FB interaction as well as texting than previously so sometimes I feel like telling him to stay away from her.
I reposted the sections that I found compelling. Sounds like this guy is scoping out your wife and she is letting him. Telling him to back off won't do anything except make you look a fool.
Trusting your wife is admirable, but blind trust is stupid. Married or not, you are still in a long-distance relationship and these are very difficult to manage. Open communication is crucial. You need to get your wife to confess she is lonely and come up with ways to deal with it. This includes telling her this guy makes you uncomfortable. Your instincts are telling you he is after your wife and I suspect you are right. Its not like they are old friends or work colleagues, right? What other plausible reason could there be? Have you considered she might *want* you to put your foot down on this?
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh