Hi everyone. Bit of a tricky one. We've been through this before. He said he had a problem when He had arousal and ejaculation problems, so we talked it through and He admitted to a porn addiction during the day when I'm at work .i was very cool about it, offering to watch together (He said no that's cool thanks)But he stopped.
Then things were going really well for months and the sex was great then it declined again. i was always cool about it, celebrating when we had "successful sex" once a month. Being loving and gentle when He couldnt get aroused or ejaculate.... recently we both decided we are ready for children and he tries without any pressure from me... but He cant perform very well. We'll have successful sex at the wrong time once a month (mostly when he's been too busy to watch online porn, i am guessing)
last week He told me He'd been doing it a lot again and that He would stop. Then this week ( good timing for babies) He can't get aroused and admits to porn again.. He got angry and stormed out. WTF? he wants this and he is very attracted to me. i have been very gentle about it, saying it's ok now and then, but it affects our sex life. What more can I possibly do?
To note, he really wants to stay in this relationship and has been "nesting" like a mad man... Buying furniture and appliances and treating me well, as i have been to him. Is it really that hard to give up? He doesnt think he has a problem. I do. i feel there is too much free porn and it desensitises a man's sexual drive
Good advice much appreciated
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