He keeps asking if I love him... but iono... what should I do?

[iamminzy]

O I met him online through an online chat with my friends in late January. From then on, we started talking to each other and getting to know each other. he asked me if I wanted to be his date for valentine's day, but he said I be his backup if the other girl bails on him. I told him I don't do backups, but then he asked again and said the girl bail on him and asked if I was still interested and I said yes since my friends said I should go and have fun and it doesn't hurt to try. Well, we went shopping and had dinner and we went to a Ghiradelli. We spent whole afternoon and night together which was fun. he said I was shy, but he asked me if I wanted to hang out again next week and I said sure.

he told everyone i the chatroom that we were dating. I thought it was just a hang out thing, but he told everyone in the chatroom that we are dating. I was like wut the?... Really? He then said he knows I don't feel anything for him its cool. We hang out again and go shopping again and got to know each other more and he said I'm more open to talk now. As we got to know each other more he started to develop stronger feelings for me and he became obsess with me and he even told me. Then few weeks back he said he loved me which was like 2-3 weeks after we met. I think it was a bit too fast though. I asked him if he normally says he loves you to his ex and he said no, he waits until 3 months or so. He's straight up honest with me and very attentive. he knows me more than I know myself without me saying it; he knows what I want and need.

he keeps asking if I love him and wants me to express more love to him and thats all he wants. I hadn't said I love him because the timing... It's too fast for me to say or know if I do, and maybe I guess I am scared. I really do like him though and would like to get to know more. But he keeps asking if I love him, What should I do?

He does everything for me. He showers me with gifts and makes time for me even if his schedule is busy and makes an effort to see me almost everyday. He's really in love with me. I feel loved and falling for him, but I can't say I love him yet though. Today he bought me a gucci purse because my purse is falling apart after I told him don't buy me one because its too expensive, he does it anyways, bought me shoes without asking so I can walk comfortably, gave me an extra iphone after my friend lost my phone on saturday, and plans to put me on his family plan. It's like w/e I ask for, he gives it and does it for me. I feel spoiled, and I want to spoil him too, but I just can't say I love him at this moment. If I say I love him, it won't be my honest words and I can;t say something I don't mean, at least not at the moment, I need time, but he says I confuse him when I don't express my love. I am bad at expressing my feelings, but I try to. I don't want to say I love you because he showers with me gifts. I don't want to be see as materialistic which I am not... What should i do?

[iamminzy]

I think I am scared that if I say I love him or become too into him... he's going to leave me... I had friends come and go in the past when I was a child. A best friend turned her back on me in 4th grade and then next year same stuff happen. Or friends leave you when they move away... I guess sometimes I feel lonely and neglected maybe, but I don't know what's wrong with me... really...

[bulrush]

I think I am scared that if I say I love him or become too into him... he's going to leave me...

Stop comparing him to your bad experiences of the past. They are not the same. I had similar issues as you, and I overcame them. I took a risk, told her "I love you", and we worked things out. I finally started telling myself "She is a different person, not like X" until I believed it. I got rid of my "stinking thinking".

[Cerby]

I think I am scared that if I say I love him or become too into him... he's going to leave me... I had friends come and go in the past when I was a child. A best friend turned her back on me in 4th grade and then next year same stuff happen. Or friends leave you when they move away... I guess sometimes I feel lonely and neglected maybe, but I don't know what's wrong with me... really...

If he leaves you because you don't act the way he wants you to, then he is just manipulating you. You have low self esteem, making you a perfect target for guys with control issues. If you're not comfortable with something in a relationship, not only do you not do it, you tell the other person why through a simple form of communication - talking.

If you don't feel comfortable telling him this, then you're in a tough situation already.

[IndiReloaded]

If you don't feel it, don't say it. Otherwise, what Cerby said.

[HeartIsAching]

If he leaves you because you don't act the way he wants you to, then he is just manipulating you. You have low self esteem, making you a perfect target for guys with control issues. If you're not comfortable with something in a relationship, not only do you not do it, you tell the other person why through a simple form of communication - talking.

If you don't feel comfortable telling him this, then you're in a tough situation already.

This^

Don't say it until/unless you do.