how would you feel if another girl bought your boyfriend an LV wallet\?

[iamminzy]

I feel uneasy and disliking the idea that this girl bought him an LV wallet... I know he's nice to people, but seriously? And he was the one who told me that LV's gucci's burberry's should be bought only for gfs/bfs esp depending on the price itself.. So I don't get it.... I think his friend already bought it for him and he got excited that she got him it.... But just let me know how you guys would feel if his girl friend or vice versa bought them something so expensive and it's not even his b-day or his bff. He told me that because he helped her get a job that's why she buy him a LV wallet...... ok.... but please let me know your inputs

It makes me feel insecure... because he is showing off his wallet on facebook. I don't have much money, but I did plan on getting him something expensive like a wallet... Now I guess he doesn't need one anymore. He wants me to take him on a trip during his birthday.. I don't have a lot of money to do that.... And so now I feel even more insecure that i may not be able to afford all these things...

[dj454]

I understand where you're coming from. I am on a budget myself. It makes it difficult when you want to buy something for someone. I think I would feel just like you do. Maybe she meant well because he got her the job but that seems odd to me. I don't know enough to make a call but be careful that he's not out to be wined and dined. I've seen it alot with women but I'm sure guys do it too. There's just no good answers unless you can just let it go. If he can't understand you're on a budget then he's not a very good boyfriend. I personally don't like recieving exspensive gifts from anybody. I wish I had a good answer for you. Good luck.

[seanni]

I don't know enough to make a call but be careful that he's not out to be wined and dined. I've seen it alot with women but I'm sure guys do it too.

[sadie_genie]

I would just think "Wow. Nice, a LV wallet! What a sucker she is". Expensive gifts doesn't buy the attraction of a guy (only works on women); guys look for physical beauty.

[vashti]

Do yourself a favor and keep your insecurity to yourself. It would immediately make HER look more attractive.

[IndiReloaded]

Ask him if she can get one for you too.

[iamminzy]

haha you're funny I don't even know her. I mean it bothered me, but I just slept it off. he knew i was jealous because I asked him if it was a girl who bought it for him because I don't think guy would usually be that thoughtful to buy an LV wallet for a guy. I also asked him why did she suddenly give it to him. I joked around and said oh so I don't need to get you a new wallet now since you already have one and I dont even know what he said at first when he said, do you want me to sport her gift???? o.0

I mean it still bothers me, but I'm trying to brush it off. If I see the wallet, it bothers me a little even if she was returning a favor. I mean it didn't bother me when his ex gf bought him his other LV wallet... not at all. But its the fact that it is another female friend who bought it. It makes me wonder what's up with the LV wallet? hitting on him and hoping he feel the same way too? He said he hope not and he doesn't think so, but you never know. Because he did do a huge favor for her since jobs are hard to find and you just may never know what the other is thinking.

I mean if we look at it the other way around. If my guy friend bought me something expensive, he be jealous too. I told him stuff before about guys hitting on me and guys that I still hang out and talk with that has hit on me. he gets jealous, so it's normal for me to get jealous that a girl bought him the wallet and it's not from his girlfriend. Like if people were to ask oh where you get that wallet and it they find out if it's a girl, they be talking about it and it will most likely make me feel out of place. I would never buy someone a gift that expensive because i don't want them to think I have interest in them even if they found me a job because LV is an expensive gift. and like he said it should be bought for gfs/bfs/family not by random friends.

[IndiReloaded]

Who is this girl that he would accept such a gift? If they are longtime friends or something, you may be out of luck.

If she's just a girl acquaintance and he's taking gifts like this, then you may have the equivalent of a man-golddigger on your hands. In which case the solution is the same for a man: dump him.

Try the following rule of thumb (mine): gifts 1-2% of your weekly income = ok. 10% = close relatives, partners and only special occasions. 30 - 50% = a joint decision w/partner (if you have one).

Hope this helps. I confess not knowing (or caring) what such a wallet is anyway.

[iamminzy]

I'm not exactly sure if she is longtime friends, but I do not think so because I know who his bff and who he usually hangs out with because I know them too before I even knew him. I think she is merely an acquaintance. He is not a man gold digger though because he buys a lot of expensive stuff. he bought me a gucci wallet when I didn;t even want it. Then he bought an ipad for his parents, a gucci for his sister. Your rule of thumb makes sense though.

he usually does favors for people a lot. Like this one girl, he sometimes would help her with her errands which is fine since I know her too, and she returns the favor of giving him deep cleaning for his teethes. But its different when someone actually buys such an expensive gift or is it not? Because a gift means something more than someone giving him free deep cleaning. And no he does have feelings for her because our friend is very blunt and rude at times but thats just her nature.

He did buy a gucci id card holder for our friend which is fine too because its not as expensive as the wallet he got for me. And i know she doesn't make him buy her stuff and I really like her too. he knows what she wants and its an LV bag that she been showing me for this past month, but he didn't get that for her because he thinks that those things should be bought from significant others.

i just wonder if the girl bought hi the LV wallet, it might mean something or it might not, but yea I mean like you said the big proportion of the cost of the expensive gifts should be done by the significant other.

[MaidenMinx]

Indi, LV = louis vuitton ( or however it's spelt)

[gardenofjade]

What? He wants you to take him on a vacation? What kind of guy is this that he requires expensive gifts from girls? He should be the one buying you stuff.

[IndiReloaded]

Indi, LV = louis vuitton ( or however it's spelt)

Thanks. That still doesnt't mean much. I'm not a big shopper. Prefer to spend my money on activities (sailing, travel). I buy clothes b/c they look and feel good quality. Couldn't care less about a label.