"Just another stupid love story"?

[shadowmoon]

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Hey guys! Im new here, am glad there is a site like this. This is just another story I'm about to share. With me as the main character of course.
I have no one to share this with in real, so I opt to do it here. Hope I'm doing this right.

I am married, and well my hubby works abroad. I met this guy on net, and have been chatting with him for quite sometime. He is in a relationship too and
about to get married. Anyway, he doesnt know Im married. He thinks Im single. And I never corrected him. I fear that he will drift away when I tell him
that. And I don't really wanna share my private life to him. He is in my virtual world and will remain as that. I don't know if anyone in here also feels like u are
living in two worlds. The real world and the virtual world? What is weird between us is that, we made an "agreement" that even if
he gets married, we will still chat with each other. Still communicate with each other "silently". He tells me he loves me and it will go on even when Im a mother of two na. Or even if I "marry" na. He wants to continue our virtual relationship despite the fact that we will both have our own families. And I found myself agreeing to this. Isn't it weird? But tell you what, we never used cam 2 cam, but we share pics (descent pics, hehe). He told me, he is wild but not vulgar.
Well a little sweet nothings here n there but thats all there is. Sweet nothings are good to the point they dont damage. Thats what he told me. And he loves
his gf. But simply couldn't let go of me too. Hmmmmm.

Today, he even told me to find a bf soon so I asked him 'why'? He said he doesn't want me to go crazy over him and get hurt as he is constant. But he wants me to bewith him and at the same time have my someone also. Funny, but when he said that I really felt hurt. I almost cried. I feel so attached to him (but then again i love my hubby). I like him much Im sure of it. And I think it'll be hard to let go. This is wrong but I still wanna try if we can really make our virtual
world work. And I am hurting now because of what he said. Its very wrong but I can't help it.

Any comment is welcome guys! Just wanna share what Im feeling now. Thank u!

[BackUpOrGetStng]

This is not even a stupid love story, it's just stupid. I'm actually dumber for having read it.

[bluesummer]

What you're doing is called emotional infidelity. That's often worse than physical infidelity. Time to separate virtual from reality my dear, there are other 'real' people out there affected by this - namely your husband and your online bf's future wife. I know it's 'secret' now but these things always have a way of getting discovered eventually. Ask yourself if your husband deserves to be cheated on......if the answer is yes, he's probably someone you shouldn't be married to. If the answer is no, which it sounds like is the case, STOP IT.

Don't give the excuse that you can't stop talking to him either. That's just sheer weakness as a person. Stop for a second and think about how you would feel knowing your husband was having a similar 'relationship' with another woman. That should upset you and make you understand that what you're doing is disrespectful and hurtful to him. If you are willing to brush that aside to serve your own selfish purposes, I hope you leave your husband because no one deserves to be treated like that.

[smackie9]

uh oooooooooooh dear you are having an emotional affair and that is still considered as cheating. You don't have to be physical with another man to be involved with infidelity. You know if your husband knew what you were up to there would be a possibility of your marriage ending.

You need to address this right away. You have got to stop this nasty habit. You need to fill your time with hobbies, hanging out with friends, and family....you need to fill your lonely time with productive activities....try joining a club that works as a charity, be a mentor for a little girl...do something with your life instead of having flirtatious affairs with "virtual men". How would you feel if you found your husband flirting and having emotional affairs with other women?

[shadowmoon]

Yes, that's what I should do. Thank you guys! At least, I let out what I feel. More power to this forum! Have a wonderful days ahead everybody!!!!!!!

[iamaninnocentma]

jeez people, lighten up. her husbands away, shes bored, so shes having some fun on the internet. weve all done it. its not real, and any naughty pictures that she sends will only be seen by him and a few close friends. no problem here. some of you people need to live a little. humans arnt bulit to be faithful and monotonous to one person.

[MaidenMinx]

I think you meant monogamous and considering your recent problem, I don't think you can speak on the subject of monogamy.
The problem with emotional affairs is they leave the person detached from what is going on in their real relationships.
As for whether port not humans are built for monogamy, that is irrelevant. Marriage is an important base for civilisation and the more we disrespect it, the steeper the decline of society becomes.

[shadowmoon]

jeez people, lighten up. her husbands away, shes bored, so shes having some fun on the internet. weve all done it. its not real, and any naughty pictures that she sends will only be seen by him and a few close friends. no problem here. some of you people need to live a little. humans arnt bulit to be faithful and monotonous to one person.

Whew! Couldn't argue more!