I want to break up, but its under difficult circumstance. HELP!

[vangis]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 3 years and we've been through thick and thin, but I have realised I don't feel the same way about her anymore.
Unfortunately I am in a position where a clean breakup is not possible. Here is why:

Back last year she was kicked out by her step dad after a big fallout between him and her mother. My girlfriend moved in with me and my family for a few months until her mother could work things out. Eventually things went back to normal and she moved home, until a month later and they fell into deep trouble again. Me and my family agreed to let her come back to stay for a little while until she could sort something out. We were expecting her to be staying for weeks, tops a month maybe? But things just didn't work out between her mum and step dad. They are now living in the same small house, and both refuse to leave. When we tried to contact her mum to persuade her to take responsibility, she tried to put my girlfriend in a homeless institution. Shortly after I was due to move out for university in the same city (small 2 person flat, me and one other guy). There was no room for her to live with me there (not that i was keen of the idea, last time we lived together wasn't easy). My mother offered to let her stay until things were ironed out...

9 months later, things with her parents are still not fixed, and she shows no sign of taking responsibility and finding a her own place. She has a job, but chooses to spend her month frivolously. You can imagine both me an my mum are frustrated by this, and even though I wouldn't show it I'm also tired of the situation.
The whole ordeal has put a big strain on our relationship.
On top of this I'm about to finish my 3rd year of uni, and my studies have resulted in little opportunity to actually spend much time together. The relationship feels more like an obligation now, rather than being fun. Until recently, whenever i was away from her I couldn't help but feel incredibly negative about us, yet when we were hanging out together i remembered, and we had a great time! Until a couple weeks back.

I mentioned that my mum had organised a family holiday, but she hadn't been invited. When it came up she became angry and asked why she wasn't coming too. How could she think she was entitled to our family holiday? The argument was ridiculous, and she didn't apologise in any way. Right there i realised our relationship needed to end, it should also be considered i am job hunting for work abroad, meaning I could be leaving for my career very soon. Now feels like the best opportunity to do this.

However the problem is she still relies on me heavily and if we break up she could end up homeless, or back with her aggressive step dad.
I don't want to be the person that condemns her to an unfortunate fate, I still care deeply for her, but I can't be in this relationship anymore! It's going to kill me to see her hurting because of me.
This isn't just a nasty breakup, its also an eviction!

Ive asked many of my close friends for advice, but this is quite a unique difficulty, and there is not much help there. My mother is also totally clueless as what to do. Is there anyone out there with a shred of wisdom to help me?

Thanks for reading my story
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[Boisdevie]

She has a job but chooses to spend her mney frivolously. So she could rent her own place but is too selfish/immature/stupid do this. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HER. If you decide that you don't want her living with you, you have every right to do this. And if she does not like this then tough for her. Kicking somebody out is not easy but life is way too short to put up with crap you don't want, crap you don't need. Give her a deadline to move out and keep to it.

[MaidenMinx]

Boisdevie, is right. No point delaying the inevitable.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Break up with her, and give her a month to save and find a new place.

Or you could break up with her and start pimping her out to your friends for cheap. That way, she's paying ALL your bills and you can still **** her while you look for another girl.

[vangis]

Great advice BackUp -_-. It is indeed inevitable, i understand i need to break up with her, but was wondering if anybody has had a difficult situation like this before and may be able to share some helpful advice?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

There is nothing anyone can say that will make this easier. You clearly have a strong grasp on what the options and consequences are. It is not going to feel good, but your only other choice is to continue providing for her at your detriment. I think giving her a month to find a place would be pretty nice, considering she does have somewhere else to go besides your place.

[Jason521]

Boisdevie, is right. No point delaying the inevitable.