Need some good advices

[Cerby]

by the 3rd time u see here there should be a hug, if not you just look like some friend. come one now. that gesture alone shows some type of interest.

No, no hug, hugs are for friends and femi-men. KISS on the third date at the very minimum.

[oldfashioned]

Stupid mistake. Girls don't want a sappy drip that showers them in gifts, says I love you (when you are not even in a relationship) and can't step up and make a move. You look weak, lack confidence and it screams turn off! Girls don't want to be put up on a pedestal, they hate it. Expressing your feelings and giving gifts is not appropriate when you are not in a relationship.

Step one, take her out on an expensive date.
Step two, take her out on an enexpensive date, go for a walk, talk lots, good eye contact, one nice complement (that's it just one), take her by the hand and walk some more.
Step three, invite her over for a romantic dinner, cuddle on the couch with a bottle of wine. End of night, move in for a kiss, repeat, repeat again when you drop her off at home.
Step four, don't call her for awhile, let her call you (be the challenge), reward her call with a simple flirtation. But don't text her later, let her do the texting. Hopefully she will invite you to her place for drinks, then start making a move with passionate horny kisses, hopefully by then she will lead you to the bedroom.

I'm not someone working and around 30-year-old, just a university student around 20s and what you recommend me to do seems so mature, I mean something might be applied on a woman you're willing to marry.

Anyway, after reading all these posts, seems like I'm not good at flirting (according to your criteria). However, the thing is that, as I pointed out in my first post, there a lots of girls getting closer to me for a romantic relationship and I'm feeling that by their behaviours and attitudes. I'm doing nothing on those girls, none of the things I've done on the one I love currently. So, rather then the way I approach to girls, there is something wrong I'm doing with that girl, again probably because I can't act as myself due to excitement or something like that.
You might tell, "Can't you see she is not into you", but most of my friends says the way she look, behave you all show that she has feelings for you. But she doesn't make me feel the way for me to understand that this one loves me, as other girls do.

Also as I mentioned on the original post, once she called me for a walk. That might seem pretty simple, but it makes me think. I mean is that alone enough to say that, "yes she is into you" or I'm just exaggerating it ?
I wouldn't consider it if one of my long term close female friends proposed for such walk, but this one is, we are just getting start to spent time together...

[JoeyJR]

do not feel insecure at all you are the great catch after all, always have that mindset!

dont over think if shes into you or not, you wanna find out if she digs you? etc.. then ask her out, flirt with her, kino... thats all you have to do, then see how everything turns out!

stop overthinking etc, your gonna blow everything up in the process, be a man, be confident, lead and dictate..

[smackie9]

Oh good f ucking lord! (excuse after excuse, etc).....What I described was only as an example, you could fill it in with your own ideas. (something applied to a woman you wanted to marry ...really? are you from another planet?) You want to know if she is into you? take her hand, if she rejects it then it's obvious. I am talking in circles here..... you are just like a skiddish cat hiding under a car.

[smackie9]

do not feel insecure at all you are the great catch after all, always have that mindset!

dont over think if shes into you or not, you wanna find out if she digs you? etc.. then ask her out, flirt with her, kino... thats all you have to do, then see how everything turns out!

stop overthinking etc, your gonna blow everything up in the process, be a man, be confident, lead and dictate..

Good call but like it will ever be taken into consideration.

[Boisdevie]

Not going to work because:
1. Students can't afford expensive dates.
2. From what he's said he's probably too young to drink.
3. He has no ****ing idea.
4. She is overcome with apathy.

[smackie9]

sorry I didn't mean expensive I meant INEXPENSIVE Date....like buying her just an ice cream and go for a walk. (I never have the time to read over my post when I'm at work. )

keep it on the cheap, and no gifts as a rule to see if she sticks around, if she does then that means she is there to be with you and is only interested in you. It's way to easy for a girl to take advantage of insecure guys, when they keep taking them out and buying them stuff.......that girl ain't stupid, she knows you like her. She was either A waiting for you to make a move (some girls are just that way and expect it), or B she took you for a ride and has no need for you anymore. I'm leaning more towards B because after all that time and stuff, she never made a motion to actually show she was interested.


I would edit my post but I see there is a time limit.....which kinda sucks.

[Cerby]

I'm not someone working and around 30-year-old, just a university student around 20s and what you recommend me to do seems so mature, I mean something might be applied on a woman you're willing to marry.

Anyway, after reading all these posts, seems like I'm not good at flirting (according to your criteria). However, the thing is that, as I pointed out in my first post, there a lots of girls getting closer to me for a romantic relationship and I'm feeling that by their behaviours and attitudes. I'm doing nothing on those girls, none of the things I've done on the one I love currently. So, rather then the way I approach to girls, there is something wrong I'm doing with that girl, again probably because I can't act as myself due to excitement or something like that.
You might tell, "Can't you see she is not into you", but most of my friends says the way she look, behave you all show that she has feelings for you. But she doesn't make me feel the way for me to understand that this one loves me, as other girls do.

Also as I mentioned on the original post, once she called me for a walk. That might seem pretty simple, but it makes me think. I mean is that alone enough to say that, "yes she is into you" or I'm just exaggerating it ?
I wouldn't consider it if one of my long term close female friends proposed for such walk, but this one is, we are just getting start to spent time together...

Ok, so you're getting advice and telling us it is bad, then you go on to tell us that other girls are getting closer to you. So what? Having someone come to you is far different than actually doing the work to get someone.

You have no balls, and this isn't going to work out for you. Please continue to buy presents and gifts and be taken advantage of like a sucker.

Your answer has been given more than once. Simply go up to her an ask her out for a coffee or something, and make sure you use the word DATE. Or make another excuse as to why it won't work, and don't do it.

[jetta86s]

You should not mind about things too much. You better do something or end up wondering how it could have been...