My girlfriends rapid weight gain is making me lose attraction

[Sasino]

My girlfriend of almost 2 years is fantastic, i love her personality, i love the times we spend together, there is nothing wrong but her rapid weight gain. She has put on a substantial amount of weight ever since we first started dating. She was a tiny girl, had perfect curves and had the perfect amount of fat to not make her look sick with anorexia. Now it has gotten ridiculous... She weighs more than I do now, by 10-15 pounds to be exact. This was a girl who took care of herself before we were in a relationship, but over the past few months our living arrangement had changed and now we do not live with each other. i know that her current situation is very unhealthy, she now resides with her father who eats fast food 3-4 times daily and she is definitely showing some thighs. My sex life is being affected by this new problem, I find myself not being turned on and almost thinking of it as a chore. This is changing a lot, I love her personality but how to I get her to lose some weight? I have told her I wanted to take steroids to bulk up so I do not feel so uncomfortable about the weight comparison.

I do not have the option to break up with her right now, I don't need sex, but it is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship.

[Boisdevie]

You need to tell her how you feel because this issue will not go away. It will only get worse.

[Sasino]

By telling her the way i feel about the situation could possibly ruin the relationship. I feel as if I do need to say something, so how should i word this to her?

[Boisdevie]

If you don't tell her it will ruin the relationship. If you tell her it might also ruin the relationship. Word it very delicately but from my own experience women do not like to hear this EVER. A way of doing things might be to back off a bit. Be less available, less touchy feely and less interested in sex. They she might ask 'what's wrong?' which would give you the opening to talk to her about this.

[vashti]

Why don't you try engaging (together) in some physical activities she might enjoy? Bike riding, dance lessons, etc. And tell her you are interested in becoming more healthy, and want to modify the way you both eat.

[oldskool83]

you need to look at if her weight gain is from food or if its her aging. ive seen a lot of smaller girls put weight on and its from boose also. try joining a gym together and running and doing the elipical 30 mins a day.

[Lynda]

Hi

First of all , be honest with yourself. Do not focus on what others my say. She is your girl , tell her that you have some worries about her health and bad eating habits and you dont want any thing to happen to her and that she means everything to you. She will be more receptive with the love that you will show her with your kind words and you wont talk directly about her weight which will make her feel bad, you should do whatever you can to support her.

If you arent able to do that then please dont be with her, because sooner or later you will seek elsewhere what you are lokking for and possible have an affair and no one deserves to be cheated on.

Good luck