Everyone is an S or an M. Which one are you?

[Osaka]

So I have this belief that everyone is at least a little bit of S and/or M.
S meaning sadistic while M being masochistic.

For me, I'm an S for sure while my girlfriend is an M.
She loves it when I choke her when we're getting intimate. She also loves it when I slap her, bite her, and rough her up.
Of course, I also love doing all of the above.

One time, we were in a sexual ecstasy that I made my girlfriend pass out. It's a wonderful combination of having an S with an M.
I'm not such crazy S that I like to see blood or leave noticeable damage. (Apart from the red hand mark on my girlfriend's ass which fades pretty quickly)

Out of all the sexual relationships I've had, most girls loved being choked or slapped and such while others loved biting me and such.

So what are you? S or M? Does it fit with your partner?

[Boisdevie]

So what are you?

Compared to you, pretty normal and balanced.

[smackie9]

Ya uh no, physical pain turns me off so none of the above. I'm with Boisdevie.

[Kit]

Few people are into S&M. I am. My boyfriend and girlfriend are also. We all like both sides. The boy and I are both sadists. The girl is mostly a masochist. You should check out fetlife. It's like facebook for kinky people.

[smackie9]

Yup a place for people who are numb to feeling normal pleasure.

[dclementi]

Ditto with what smackie said. WTH? Like can you say unhealthy?

[HeartIsAching]

Then you've got a wrong belief. I don't like pain, either giving or receiving it.

[IndiReloaded]

I think most people find the idea of S&M more interesting than the reality. Our society is conditioned to think there is something wrong with 'stable and boring' sex life. Personally, I would much prefer a generous, loving partner than one who is into acrobatics and kink. Or harbours cruel tendencies behind their complaints of boredom (there's all flavours out there). I'm pretty liberal in matters of sex, but I'd be wary of anyone overtly stating a preference for this kind of thing, especially for the latter reason.

But to each their own. That alternate forum sounds likely. This place is pretty vanilla.