When a girl asks you to go campign with her alone, is that code for sex

[MattMonster]

At first this girl was sending me alot of really mixed messages, but yesterday she told me she wanted to spend more time with me, she was very excited to see me, AND we should go camping and hiking together this coming weekend.

Get this too... this is her birthday weekend! Her birthday is this Friday and she wants to come up here Thursday night (she lives about 40 mins away) and then leave to our destination Friday morning. So as if that math doesn't mean something, she also said we would be camping alone and would need to bring the right equipment.

So it seems painfully obvious to me that there is a 99.99% chance I'm getting some... until a friend of mine told me she may actually just want to be friends or friendly. To boot, we are going down to the states to Glacier National Park (we live super close by, but still, it's more effort going there than the rockies of Alberta), so like..... camping alone + road trip + a foreign destination =.... a good chance?

What do you think?

[Maple1714]

She prob. wants to have sex...I mean the ONLY time I have wanted to go on an over night trip w/a guy was if we were already a couple or I suggested it b/c I wanted to spend the night with him to see if he would put the moves on. I think she def. wants to do something...and Glacier is beautiful! I was just up near there last week! But please all I ask is do not have sex with her unless you have real feelings...don't play that game. Sex means something to us girls...no way around that. She likes you

[smackie9]

Glaceir park! I've camped there before....it's not so isolated there will be other campers around. And ya the right equipment means condoms. So pack yer hoodie, get some beers and hopefully things will fall into place.

Don't forget to stop in at the "Holy Smoke! a tavern!" lol.

[smackie9]

What? sex mean something to us girls? Sorry but no it's not like that for all girls.....she could just want something casual or she is one of those that wants to check out the performance before she is interested in something more permanent.

[Maple1714]

I think sex means something to *most* girls...but not all I guess...but to me it's strange when a girl doesn't have any emotional attachment to the act of sex. I feel like they are not being totally honest with themselves...everyone is different of course.

[MattMonster]

Yeah I live in Lethbridge, really close to Waterton/Glacier, so I'm very familiar with that area. It's right in my backyard, BUT, I thought it meant something because it obviously takes more effort to go to Montana than to just stay in Alberta right? That made me think she wants it a little more "secluded" I suppose? You know what I mean?

And I do like this girl... I mean I've only known her 4 weeks, but she really peaks my interest. The thing is, I wasn't really sure if she liked me or not beforehand, but I think this cements it. I mean haha... it may sound bad but it's been a while for me so I obviously wouldn't mind getting laid, but I wouldn't just use her for that either. I genuinely like her.... but I also wouldn't be opposed to something casual either.

I'm thinking of putting on some moves, but try to keep the pressure off to. You know it really helps that beer is really cheap down there haha, maybe all the inhibitions will just go away.

[smackie9]

Sex is just that sex. It's there to be enjoyed. Of course there is some emotional attachment (but not needed) with it but that is what attraction is about. Emotion can be many things....it doesn't have to be love, it can be lust too. No emotional attachment has nothing to do with lack of honesty, it's a mature understanding that sex is a pleasure not an emotion.

[Maple1714]

I have to disagree strongly. I think that looking at sex as just something to do for pleasure is a sad and empty way to look at it. It's how people create new life and show their affection towards each other. It's scared and in many ways a spiritual act. Of course it's fun and all of that too...but it's not intended to be something done just for fun. There is a lot of energy that is created btw. 2 people when they have sex or make love...that shouldn't be ignored or played down. Sad to think that there are so many females out there today thinking that sex is just for fun...ugh. Women give away sex too easily and we have all these relationship issues, std's, unwanted pregnancies...etc. I will teach my daughter to respect the act of sex and not to share space, time and a part of herself with just anyone to try it out.

Anyway - getting off subject. I hope you - MattMonster - have a great time and if you respect one another have some sex!!

[smackie9]

You must be religious and don't accept porn.....

[Maple1714]

Hahaha I am not really religious and I love porn...but I am not going to go out and make a porn with 10 random dudes. Our physical bodies are made up of energy...share and spread your energy around as you will, but people should be more respectful and careful in doing so is all I am getting at. Our actions make us who we are...if sex has no emotional connection for you then it is what it is. I personally like to take EVERY relationship I have with anyone in my life seriously...call me old fashioned.

Smackie9 how old are you?

[MattMonster]

I agree with you Maple1714, I think sex is fun and awesome... but it's also a little bit more than a physical act. That said, I have seen friends with benefits work out.... but it's very rare, and usually peopel that just engage it physically are missing something. I, for one, am a guy that doesn't just see sex as something to please me for a little while... I like sex that pleases me always by thinking about it becuase it was that special sort of experience.

I really like this girl, and am looking forward to it. Have an awesome weekend and thanks for the input :-)

[smackie9]

Hahaha I am not really religious and I love porn...but I am not going to go out and make a porn with 10 random dudes. Our physical bodies are made up of energy...share and spread your energy around as you will, but people should be more respectful and careful in doing so is all I am getting at. Our actions make us who we are...if sex has no emotional connection for you then it is what it is. I personally like to take EVERY relationship I have with anyone in my life seriously...call me old fashioned.

Smackie9 how old are you?

48..................

[HeartIsAching]

48..................

Hahaha... what a coincidence. My wife is also 48, and I'm pretty sure you two would get along great. She's a lusty wench and does not confuse sex with love... though our love makes the sex better.

[vashti]

I think if all she wanted was sex, she would have just invited you to her place for the evening.... not ask you to go spend a couple of nights away. Getting sex is easy. Getting a man to spend time with you requires more investment.

[cheekxs]

You are a pig to think that every thing means want to sex!

Even tho i wonder why she would ask a guy she barely know to go alone with her.
She is a stupid girl!

A should never seek lonely places or be alone with a guy.
Cause not every guy have good intentions.

Maybe she just want to hang out.
If you think sex and she is not, it could be a very bad situation.
So act normal ! Not everything is sex!