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Thread: Boyfriend is Super Distant... What Now?

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    Boyfriend is Super Distant... What Now?

    Hey guys,

    So I'm really confused and I'm really in need of some advice. My ex and I, let's call him Garrett, dated last year for about two months until everything fell apart and I decided to call it quits because he was acting so immature, albeit I had the time of my life with him. Him and I hadn't spoken for almost a year when I ran into him a little over a month ago. We both confessed that we had missed each other a lot and wished we could have made things work.

    Garrett had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and was kind of in a "no dating" stage when I showed up, but he quickly assured me that I was the most amazing girl and he wanted to try and go slow and see what happened. So we started hanging out a lot, and even though we aren't officially together we were still having sex. At first he was very caring and open, telling me how he felt (something he didn't do before) and telling me how he was going to treat me amazing this time no matter what etc. He'd text me every morning to say good morning, and at night to say he missed me. At one point he almost told me he loved me. So naturally all my feelings for him returned quickly...

    But lately he's been very distant. He doesn't reply to my texts anymore, like at all. I haven't seen him or heard from him in over a week. I'm getting pretty frustrated by all his antics. I knew it was a crapshoot trying anything with him again, but is this a clear sign that I should give up? We had plans to hang out before I leave the country on vaca but I made other plans already because he's ignoring me. The last time he texted me he wanted a ride to work, and thats it. I really love hanging with him, but is it time to move on and find someone who's willing to express his emotions?

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    There are many possibilities as to why. He could be back talking to the ex, met someone new, or you were just a rebound. Whatever it is he is afraid to tell you because he knows you have feelings for him and knows it's going to hurt you. It looks like he isn't going to give you what you want, so it's time to move on. You were not official, so you are free to leave at anytime to pursue someone new.


    ***he is still immature.

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    oNLY HE can tell you the real reason.

    But dammm, he had a easy fast good sex for when he wanted it.

    Cause you was o easy to get back with him.


    So whatever happen, blame yourself for being that naive!

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    I noticed you said you were going on vacation...without him. Maybe he is wondering what you are going to do on that vacation and with whom. And perhaps he is upset that you aren't going with him.

    You should look up the thread: I fell in love with a girl from another country who I met on a holiday

    [url]http://www.loveforum.net/threads/67081-I-fell-in-love-with-a-girl-from-another-country-who-I-met-on-holiday[/url]...
    Last edited by toknow; 27-07-12 at 12:37 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by toknow View Post
    Maybe he is wondering what you are going to do on that vacation and with whom. And perhaps he is upset that you aren't going with him.

    You should look up the thread: I fell in love with a girl from another country who I met on a holiday

    [url]http://www.loveforum.net/threads/67081-I-fell-in-love-with-a-girl-from-another-country-who-I-met-on-holiday[/url]...
    Maybe you should read the OP. The holiday was organised before he came on the scene. And we don't care what happened to you on holiday.

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    Bahahahahah...Why don't you waste more of your time answering my posts, Boisdevie. You give me free entertainment.

    Now, MikeNessMonster, you need to ask him yourself, or you might never find out. Many relationships have been lost because of a mere misunderstanding.
    Last edited by toknow; 27-07-12 at 01:16 AM.

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    How many days ago did you last contact him by any means? How many texts have you sent him since then?
    I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
    (Please note, we give the best advice we can based on the information given in a post. For better advice, please include the age of all romantic partners.)

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