Sorry for the OP being so long, but I really want to get to the bottom of my issue.
I am a 25 year old from London, and have been seeing my partner for just over 7 years...since she was 16
The first few years of our relationship wasn't really what I would consider serious, we weren't in a relationship per se, but we could see each other a few times a month, go on dates etc....this was mainly due to us just being really young, finding our way through life. Through the last 2-3 years however our relationship and love for each other has gradually become more serious and stronger, culminating in us moving in together 2 weeks ago.
Pretty much every aspect of our relationship is as perfect as you could imagine it to be, however throughout the tenure of our relationship I have had a problem with flirting with other women, both online and in real life. I regularly make comments to women I pass by on the street/in nightclubs/ on facebook etc and on a few rare occasions it has led to something more serious.
I know some of you are thinking it already, but it really isn't as simple an issue to me as '' if you really loved her, then you would just stop''
I love my girlfriend dearly, and I feel that I could have well have an addiction. Obviously every men likes to look/talk to attractive women, but for me it seems to be more of a thing of craving the attention/like of women/making them smile as opposed to a ''cor look at the tits on that'' sort of mentality.
I have seen a number of relationship psychologists over the past two years, and they've all pretty much taking the angle that my attitude towards women is due to the fact that I didn't really spend much time with my mother when I was growing up, and that I'm trying to make up for what I didn't have in my youth...up until my early twenties I didn't really have any success with women/felt comfortable approaching them etc.
It's getting to a pivotal stage in our relationship as my partner has been waiting for me to get better for a number of years now, and obviously it's not fair on her to be wasting her life waiting for me. In addition since we have moved in and left her parents she hasn't really been able to save any money, so also from a financial perspective a lot of her life is in my hands.
Does anyone have any advice for me? anybody been in a similar position to either myself or her? Anybody who has similar problems with women like I do?
Thanks for taking the time to listen