Relationship breakup and young child involved

[dan2k7]

Hello all, the time has finally come for me and my partner to go our separate ways. We had a long chat in which I told her that I still wanted to be with her but I couldn't wait around while she decided what she wants. She basically told me she didn't know what she wanted so I guess this is the end. I am looking for advice on how to start coming to terms with the split. I have read the sticky in the forum but its hard to forget her completely since we have a 2 year old boy together. Any thoughts suggestions much appreciated

[LissaP]

Its in the best interest of your son to continue trying to work it out. I can only assume that the two of you are friends. If not, thats a great place to start. Let her see that you're available to her on a non-intimate level. Give her a little 'room' but definitely stay on the periphery. I'm sure she'd rather have the father of her son in her life than some other fella....unless you're not a good dad.

[Take2]

Lissa, I disagree. When my ex left, I quickly realized that he is MUCH better in my life as the father of my kids with no romantic ties to me. I can be his friend, but that will not ever lead to anything more. Luckily, he is on the same page. But still, don't count on a woman wanting a guy back as a mate just for the kid. The kid may be benefitting from those 2 not being at each others' throats, or something.

[dan2k7]

Thanks for the replies so far guys, I would say we are still friends for the moment. There is still a lot of anger and bitterness on both sides unfortunately as we still love each other and care for one another. I just can't stand not knowing where I stand which is why I am trying to get closure and start healing. I don't know if she is truthful when she says she does not know what she wants or whether she is trying to string me along