How would you feel if your man wanted to bring in another women ?

[lg41701]

I have done mmf before and I found it to be very exciting !! I felt like a star lol . And the guys didnt touch each other at all , just like he said , They were both concentrating on other things . I would def. ask if you are wanting to do it , the worst they can do is say no ...

[buzzer]

You are married. So that thing is exclusively for both of you.

[IndiReloaded]

He wants to be involved but does not want to have intercoarse with this other women.

He says this now. In the moment, well, who knows.

No, easier if anything. The traditional MMF threesome is also a much simpler thing to do because (sorry for sounding so crude) at any one time each guy is pretty much just concentrating on one hole.

Only one way to find out. I'm always flattered when couples ask me (it's by no means a regular occurrence btw,) even if I do decline sometimes.

Cafe, you have been around, Sir. LOL.

My only caution (other than the obvious--you should only do this if you are also interested and don't feel pressured), is that you don't want to choose someone with whom you or he have a strong emotional connection. Close friends, for example. My husband suggested this years ago and lots of things went sideways as a result. Even tho we didn't actually go there, I should add.

[Maple1714]

Sooo I have decided against going after my fantasy of a MMF threesome with my ex...b/c I realized (after seeing him this weekend) that I still care for him deeply and that is why I fantasize about him and his best friend. Ugh...

[TheCafeTerrace]

Cafe, you have been around, Sir. LOL.

But at the grand old age of 21 my wilder days are already behind me. Got a comparatively vanilla girl on the go at the moment, but happy as a pig in shit. I'm currently living vicariously through unfortunate friends and strangers on the internet. (loving being called "Sir" by the way - reminds me of some of the kinkier flings I've had... *sigh*).

Sooo I have decided against going after my fantasy of a MMF threesome with my ex...b/c I realized (after seeing him this weekend) that I still care for him deeply and that is why I fantasize about him and his best friend. Ugh...

Woah, an ex and his bestie? I just assumed you meant an old ****buddy or a casual shag or something.

Anywho, spill about your ex and shiz - What happened this weekend? Did you hook up again? What happened to the other fella you referred to as "my man" earlier? Did you only ever fantasise about threesomes with those two in particular? I wants the goss!

[Maple1714]

Lol...I have BF and he is great...but he is "sweet". In ALL of my fantasies the men are not "sweet". Soooo this ex of mine wasn't a BF..he might have been but he pissed me off and I kicked him to the curb. I kicked him to the curb too soon though b/c obviously I wasn't over him. Now it's been a couple years and every time I run in to him the sexual tension gets stronger and stronger. It's so intense we both get so nervous when we see each other. ALL I think about is ****ing him when I see him. That's all I have ever thought about around him. I saw him at a music thing in the city where I live. I knew he would be there...and there he was. Hot as hell. I looked super hot too and I know he was checking me out. He and his best friend are both vulgar sometimes and like to ****. LOl. Soooo I have fantasized about being with both of them at the same time. One night the 3 of us did hang out alone (2 yrs ago) and I always wished that we had done more than just get ****ed up and pass out...
I would say there is a 75% chance they would both be into it...but my ex prob. would say no b/c we have messy emotions about one another. IDK...I would also obviously need to break up with my BF in order for this to happen..or cheat and I wouldn't do that. This fantasy is just that...it's selfish and has nothing to do with my daily life. Sometimes desire takes over and I can't even see straight..honestly I could lock myself in a room with them and have sex for 24hrs straight...haha.

[TheCafeTerrace]

That's my kinda girl! These kinds of fantasies are my specialist subject.

I reckon if you're not wanting to cheat and you want to stay with your current BF (admirable) you should start working on corrupting him. Even the "sweet" ones (do I assume you say "sweet" in the same way I would say 'vanilla'?) can turn into devilish little ****ers in the bedroom if you play your cards right, trust me.

[Maple1714]

Also...if you met me you would think I am a "good girl"...but secretly I just want a man to take control and **** me. I am coming in to my sexual prime and I think I am way more sexual than most men I know. My ex...he never wanted to have sex enough...that was the problem. One time a night twice a week just doesn't cut it for me. So my fantasy prob. couldn't ever be real with him b/c I don't think he has the stamina. Nonetheless its still my fantasy...

[Maple1714]

Yeah I know...I need to work on my BF. I asked him this past weekend if he would ever be in to a threesome and he said possibly but only with another women :/ Sooo I dropped the subject for now. He does want to try other things...so I think I really should work on corrupting him...hehehe. He is 6yrs younger than I am and he just has less sexual experience. So I need to get this guy from my past (who is really just a player) out of my mind. It's the cocky attitude of the ex that turns me on. It turns lots of girls on...so many women want this dude. Some have asked me how I "got" him lol! I sent him a half naked picture text of myself at a bar one night. We had never formally met...I got his phone number from a mutual friend and after I sent it he was hooked...so its always been about sex for me with him.

[TheCafeTerrace]

Also...if you met me you would think I am a "good girl"...but secretly I just want a man to take control and **** me.

That's really not unusual at all, and no secret to me - I've met plenty of "good girls" who turned out to be into bondage/rape-play/whipping/powerplay/choking... Even in relatively vanilla encounters most women like to be pinned down a little bit, or thrown around a little, at least occasionally.

He does want to try other things...so I think I really should work on corrupting him...hehehe.

Well if you need any advice you know who to ask - last year I proof-read a book written by a friend of mine aimed at men who wanted their vanilla partners to dominate them (called 'The Vanilla Dominatrix' IIRC).

Some have asked me how I "got" him lol! I sent him a half naked picture text of myself at a bar one night.

Yup, that'll do it.

so its always been about sex for me with him.

Ha! story of my life, right there. Once you get a reputation for being a devious and promiscuous that's the only way a lot of people will see you - it doesn't help if you're a disgustingly kinky bisexual to boot.

[Ange Barnes]

Ask yourself - are you doing this for you or your husband? Will it make your relationship stronger or weaker? Will it be once or ongoing? Will it make your husband happy and you miserable? Perhaps it could work for you, but how would your husband react if you were asking the same of him with another man?

[Pandy_B]

Dear lg41701, I have had experience of this, both when I was married and after. We were a middle-class couple living quite orderly lives. I discovered threesomes (mff) went very well after I got my husband to tell me exactly, in detail, what would satisfy him. So I would suggest you have a good talk and try to get very detailed about it. You too have feelings and expectations, so communicate yours too to him beforehand. For example, I told him he couldn't kiss her no matter what. After a couple of times (he prematurely ejaculated both times as soon as the other woman kissed his penis, which embarrassed him a lot), we agreed that he would watch us have sex. Although that doesn't sound so great maybe, for him it was, and he could masturbate to his heart's content. He wanted to see me "really getting it" from the other woman. You can guess what that means. And I did. I was excited, too. The other woman was a lesbian friend of mine and very experienced. (And, at the time, he didn't know she was a lesbian.)

[IndiReloaded]

Ask yourself - are you doing this for you or your husband?

This^. Thank you.