Both excited and nervous

[Indestructible]

Anyone else want to chime in? Today's the day I plan to ask her out, and still feeling nervous, due to my lack of license, and the fact that she doesn't really know about that at all.

[Boisdevie]

Anyone else want to chime in?

Yeah, do you want us to call come along and hold your hand. For someone who is 23 (almost 24, gosh) you really do seem scared of an awful lot of stuff - asking girls out, driving, taking the bus.

[Indestructible]

Sheesh, sorry, I'm just trying to calm my nerves a bit. I think on some level, I've always had anxiety issues, in general, so can you really blame me for being nervous about this stuff?

[smackie9]

Maybe go see a doctor about it huh?

[IndiReloaded]

Anyone else want to chime in? Today's the day I plan to ask her out, and still feeling nervous, due to my lack of license, and the fact that she doesn't really know about that at all.

Good luck asking her out, hope it goes well. If not, tho, its not the end of the world. Everyone has fear about something. Part of being human. Ever heard of 'fake it to make it'?

Feel the fear young man, but do it anyway.

[Maple1714]

You need to work on your self confidence...pretty annyoing just reading your posts. It's a driving test...not organic chemistry. I wouldn't be worried about your date, I would be worried about how down in the dumps you sound. Sorry, I am being honest. It's super unattractive for someone not to have any self confidence and to worry all the time. Get it together.

[searock]

I've been lurking this thread for a while... how'd it go :-)?

[Indestructible]

Short version: I chickened out.

Long version: Work was a bit rougher than usual. During the day, it was busy enough that I couldn't really get a good moment with her alone. After the store closed, we were all pretty irritated and agitated about work-related stuff (she and I included), and we had to spend the last hour-and-a-half without air conditioning on top of that. I just wasn't really feeling like there was a good moment for it. At one point, I was kinda building up to it by inquiring about if she was doing anything fun over the weekend, but I couldn't seem to muster the courage to actually ask her out.

I'm pretty disappointed in myself, needless to say. I really thought I could do it. To make matters worse, I won't see her again for at least 2-3 weeks (unless I pop in to work on my day off and pray she's not busy, or hang around 30-60 minutes after my shift ends and try to catch her just when she's going in). So, I don't know what I'm going to do now. I still really want to ask her out, but I'm afraid I blew it, and that my window of opportunity with her is about to close.

[Boisdevie]

Short version: I chickened out.

Not at all surprised. Carry on like this my man and you'll be well advised to perfect your masturbation techniques cos that's all you're going to get.

[Cerby]

This is so unfortunately sad. All this prep and you couldn't get it done, like masturbation without the finish.

At some point in your life you'll realize if you don't take chances, you'll never live life outside your comfort zone. I hope you realize this before your best years are behind you.

[Indestructible]

What, you guys don't think I'm upset about this? I'm disappointed with myself, heck, I'm pissed at myself. I thought I could do it, I had it all planned in my head, but I just couldn't get it done. I'm not trying to make excuses or anything like that. I couldn't do it. Go ahead and be snarky about it, if you want, but that doesn't help anything. I'm not happy with myself, and I'm still pretty upset about the whole thing.

[smackie9]

Send her a frickin text....that's the chicken's way of doing it....now gett'r done!

[smackie9]

My god, if you do get to date her are you going to be like this about kissing her? how about sex...holy crap that's a whole 2 months of "how do I do this?" Get some help.

[Cerby]

What, you guys don't think I'm upset about this? I'm disappointed with myself, heck, I'm pissed at myself. I thought I could do it, I had it all planned in my head, but I just couldn't get it done. I'm not trying to make excuses or anything like that. I couldn't do it. Go ahead and be snarky about it, if you want, but that doesn't help anything. I'm not happy with myself, and I'm still pretty upset about the whole thing.

Not snarky, but you have a forum of people putting together an idea for you and the execution didn't come through. I think you need to change the outlook a little bit. Ask yourself, would you be better off right now having asked her and been rejected, or being in limbo like you are?

Personally, I'd prefer to be put down hard and then get back up than a slow, painful, dragging out of the unknown.

[Indestructible]

My god, if you do get to date her are you going to be like this about kissing her? how about sex...holy crap that's a whole 2 months of "how do I do this?" Get some help.

Eh... What do you want from me? I have zero experience with any of this stuff. This is all completely new to me. I just don't want to be "going in blind". I'd like to have some semblance of knowing what I'm doing beforehand, and the only way for me to do that is to come here for help.

Not snarky, but you have a forum of people putting together an idea for you and the execution didn't come through. I think you need to change the outlook a little bit. Ask yourself, would you be better off right now having asked her and been rejected, or being in limbo like you are?

Personally, I'd prefer to be put down hard and then get back up than a slow, painful, dragging out of the unknown.

I get what you're saying, but... what good does that do for me now? I can't go back and redo things, and I already know how sucky the position I'm in now is. So... what? Where do I go from here?