you are correct i do prefer to finish and some times i do but it does not bother me if i dont, no pain or unsatisifed feeling.
i choose to do it this way as my avrage is 20 min but i have turned that into 2 plus hours if she can do it.
reason this came up is i did it with my ex of 3 years and the girl who i just finished dating
this was the only way for me to last tell my ex had 1 orgasum
and as for the girl i just had a falling out with she could have 6 plus and needed to stop. (i asked her why she got mad, her anwser was your the only one i had not made cum and i dident know why.)
i find that i dont seem to get tiard this way i have used other things such as rings in the past but simply for her plesure, and i felt tiard,
upon finding out how much it may bug a girl I may not do it for are first time, or some how inform her im not gunna reach that point lol