Hello, My situation is kinda different and I need advice on wanting to move on. I met a guy online about 1 1/2 years ago. At first we were friends but after constant chatting, I started getting close to him. We moved on from chats to skype and phone calls. I was falling for him and despite not having met him, I was in love with him. He said that he felt the same about me and couldnt wait to meet me and start a life together. He said that we should officially commit ourselves to each other. After a few months I found out that he was chatting with another girl. I asked him about her and he said that she was just a friend and nothing more. He said that she had at one point told him that she likes him more than a friend but he told her that he doesn't feel same about her. I told him that he should tell the girl that he is chatting to me and interested in me but he said that he didnt want to hurt her and I didnt give it much thought. I was just content in the knowledge that we were together. I later on found out that he was going on holidays with the girl for 2 weeks. I had a feeling that something might happen and said that we should part ways but he assured me that he only likes me and this was just a break for him as I couldn't take time off because of a new job.I was not sure because at one point he had told her about me and she said I will never talk to you again unless u break up with her and he said lets pretend we have broken up. He said that he was the only friend she had. I agreed again but after the holidays he changed..he was not very affectionate towards me and I decided to end things and just be friends with him. He kept saying that he doesn't like her and I said why don't u tell her about me again, his excuse again " I know she likes me but cannot rub it into her face that I have a gf and dont want you". I dont like hurting people for no reason so agreed again but he was cold and distance so I said lets just be friends.
I chat to him everyday still but now he is with her and openly flaunting his love for her. I told him I understand he loves her but he also knows I still love him. I didnt end whatever we had because I stopped feeling things for him but because he was being emotionally distance.
Maybe I am wrong but I put up with a lot so the other woman doesnt get hurt but now I am in same position, is it wrong of me to ask to be a bit considerate about my feelings and not openly flaunt and say I have been replaced?
I am not very strong because of my childhood and try not to hurt people even if it harms me. I want to move on and forget about him but he keeps messaging me and says he cares about me. Another thing is that the other woman doesnt know that he talks to me everyday.
How can I move on and stop thinking about him? Please excuse my grammar and spelling as english is not my first language.