Craving for a Romantic Effort from my boyfriend :(

[CorkBoard]

Hi there, I am new to this forum thing and I am actually doing this because I don't know what to do anymore I have a boyfriend and this October 3 is our 3rd year anniversary. My boyfriend and I met when we were both in college. He asked my number from a common friend and then we became friends and he started to court me. After a month of courtship we became official couples. He's my first boyfriend and I am his first as well. When he asked me out he honestly told me he doesn't know how to court a girl since it was actually his first time doing it. At that time, I actually have feelings for him but he didn't know it. And since I like him, I didn't make it hard for him to court me. As a boyfriend, I know he loves me as much as I love him. But he's not the romantic type of guy. He cannot plan a romantic date and he can't even surprise me with a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates at valentines (the usual stuff) . At one point, I tried to tell him that I am craving for some romantic attention. There was one valentines date that he organized, and guess what, thank God the restaurant is giving a free rose to every female customers during that day! Without that, I didn't have my share of roses for valentines Don't get me wrong, I am not the type of girl that is fond of gifts. But you know sometimes in every woman's heart we crave for some romantic surprises. I am not expecting him to give me expensive or very grand gifts/ surprises, I just want him to make me feel special at least during our monthsaries or anniversaries because those dates matter to us and reminds me of what we had before. I don't mind if it's a freshly picked flowers from his neighbor's backyard or a simple card as long as it's from him. There's one time at my birthday, he gave me a cracker. Yes, a cracker! ) but that made me so happy and until now that pack of cracker is still with me I keep it. To cut it short my problem is that sometimes I actually feel like he's taken me for granted, doesn't he? I am a woman that needs a little romantic effort from his boyfriend please enlighten me on this matter. I really love him and all I want is a little romantic affection from him (one thing I can't get from him).

[smackie9]

He is what he is....find a new BF.

[VincenzoG91]

Hi there, I am new to this forum thing and I am actually doing this because I don't know what to do anymore I have a boyfriend and this October 3 is our 3rd year anniversary. My boyfriend and I met when we were both in college. He asked my number from a common friend and then we became friends and he started to court me. After a month of courtship we became official couples. He's my first boyfriend and I am his first as well. When he asked me out he honestly told me he doesn't know how to court a girl since it was actually his first time doing it. At that time, I actually have feelings for him but he didn't know it. And since I like him, I didn't make it hard for him to court me. As a boyfriend, I know he loves me as much as I love him. But he's not the romantic type of guy. He cannot plan a romantic date and he can't even surprise me with a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates at valentines (the usual stuff) . At one point, I tried to tell him that I am craving for some romantic attention. There was one valentines date that he organized, and guess what, thank God the restaurant is giving a free rose to every female customers during that day! Without that, I didn't have my share of roses for valentines Don't get me wrong, I am not the type of girl that is fond of gifts. But you know sometimes in every woman's heart we crave for some romantic surprises. I am not expecting him to give me expensive or very grand gifts/ surprises, I just want him to make me feel special at least during our monthsaries or anniversaries because those dates matter to us and reminds me of what we had before. I don't mind if it's a freshly picked flowers from his neighbor's backyard or a simple card as long as it's from him. There's one time at my birthday, he gave me a cracker. Yes, a cracker! ) but that made me so happy and until now that pack of cracker is still with me I keep it. To cut it short my problem is that sometimes I actually feel like he's taken me for granted, doesn't he? I am a woman that needs a little romantic effort from his boyfriend please enlighten me on this matter. I really love him and all I want is a little romantic affection from him (one thing I can't get from him).

Have you told him any of this? Or are you waiting for him to read your mind?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

If it hasn't happened in 3 years, it probably won't. It's pathetic that you kept a pack of crackers. There's starving kids in Africa and you're just letting these crackers age. It's a crime, really.

Just tell him he doesn't put any effort into the relationship or making you feel special, and you're starting to think the relationship doesn't mean much to him. Tell him you are considering ending things with him.

To be fair, you haven't said what it is that you bring to the relationship and what you do to make him feel special, so it's entirely possible that you're a lazy, entitled bitch yourself.

[Cerby]

Let me ask you, what do you do romantically for him? Is this a one way or two way street?

[smackie9]

Have you told him any of this? Or are you waiting for him to read your mind?

He should just know if he really cared, she shouldn't have to tell him, geeeeez *roll eyes* LOL

[smackie9]

maybe if you gave him "special sex" he will show his appreciation and buy you flowers......