Originally Posted by
Lynda
I guess that not many people think the way I think. I was with my ex husband for 21 years and I have never asked him for anything nor to support me entirely. I stayed home with the kids for 12 years then went back to work, but never once in those 12 years did he make me feel excluded or less important because I didn't have an income or money to buy a house etc.... That's why I have that way of thinking about a relationship. Even when I got divorced, I could of asked for spousal support because I was accustomed to a high standard of living, but I didn't want to do that, I wanted to detach myself from him and I wanted to prove that I was capable of making it on my own. Unfortunetely the timing is bad because I lost my job last year and I lost 50,000$ and then I met my bf.
So what? Really, why should your current BF care that your previous husband decided to support you? Different people, different situation. He doesn't owe you squat.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh